Should I consider gaining?

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  1. Apr 15, 2019 #1

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    Was considering perhaps trying to gain some poundage as I don't think I'm big enough for any FFA to notice. I suppose I really need to commit to putting the Big in BHM (though I would never call myself Handsome) but you get the drift. It seems I don't really fit in any world these days. What does anybody think?
     
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    Hi-although people don’t talk about it very much here, there are plenty of F/FA’s who like or even prefer smaller fat people. So I would say-gain if you personally feel excited by it but don’t do it just to fit some idea of “what FFA’s like.”
     
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    Personally I don't think you should. Excess weight is not good for your body. If my opinion gets me kicked off this board then oh well but if you're over 50 and have any ongoing health issues, adding extra weight to those would be detrimental. ...and is that the type of a relationship you really want?
     
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    I think you should do what makes you happy :)
     
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    Good advice. Thank you.
     
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    And your opinion will not get you kicked off.
     
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    It's not something I feel excited about. I just thought maybe it would help in certain aspects.
     
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    Well it's the whole feeder/ weight gain vibe around here I don't like and I'm always worried if I say something against it then I'll get the boot.

    That is why I stay quiet a lot of the time.
     
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    What aspects do you think it would help?
     
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    You are always welcome to share your opinion here (I think). You shouldn't get the boot for being open and honest.
     
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    Ummm... maybe I'd better not answer that in this open forum. I have a hard enough time saying the right things sometimes.
     
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    I'd also advise against it. It doesn't seem to be what YOU want.
     
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    Besides, I don't think too much more fat will look good on me nor will my frame wear it well.
     
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    I'm also tempted. I've wanted to for some time. I wish I had useful input like other posters have.
     
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    I think a chubby guy who is comfortable with his body is probably more attractive than a heavier guy who hates his body, to me anyway. So if you’re going to put effort into something, I recommend loving yourself the way you are.

    Really only people who find weight gain to be its own reward should gain, I think. If you listen to gainers they often seem to have a feeling of being too small until they gain, almost as if they are growing into their true selves.

    Remember that much of what you read here are the wildest fantasies of people expressing a taboo desire in a welcoming space. So stories about ssbhm might not reflect what an ffa would be happy with or even prefer in real life. There’s no real world consequences to being 600 pounds in fiction or role play or theoretical comments about best bellies or whatever.
     
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    I remember feeling this way a few years back when I was gaining weight from a hurt leg. I was on the verge. I felt like I was finally becoming myself.
     
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    I agree with what everybody else says. It is something that you should only ever do for yourself, because you want to do it, and it doesn't seem like that's the case for you.

    Also, there are a lot less FFA out there than this forum would make it seem. You're likely to get more attention in general as a regular sized guy than as a BHM. Which is unfortunate, but it is what it is.

    Like the others say, there are plenty of women that like small BHM. I remember feeling like you, stuck in the middle and attractive to no-one, when I was younger and smaller. It's hard not fitting into a group, but that's just the way things are some times.
     
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    I gained weight because it felt right to me and the desire to gain nagged me until I did. It was more fun when I was actually with someone who also enjoyed the process of being a foodie and gaining weight, but in the end I gained weight because I felt like being bigger was my natural state. In fact, I hated being thinner. I didn't like how I looked or felt. I've yo-yo'd a little bit over the years, but the desire to gain weight and be bigger is always there. But from the beginning I've gained over 120 pounds, and really want to gain a lot more, but it's just not practical at my age to keep gaining and gaining (although I REALLY want to). And I've only ever had one person in my whole life tell me I needed to lose weight (which i understand is not typical). So to answer your question, if you have a burning desire to do it, then yes. If not, you should pass.
     
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  19. Apr 17, 2019 at 12:37 AM #19

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    I have to agree with what most other people in this thread have said. If you have to ask whether or not you should gain, then it's not for you. I'm a gainer. I've more than doubled my original weight. I didn't feel right in a thin body. If you're a gainer, you have a burning desire to be fat. It's not about getting a partner. It's about having the body that you feel you should have been born with. It's about identity. It's about knowing that everyone else perceives you as the fat man. I used to play with padding at every chance I got, because it allowed me to be the real me for just an hour or two.

    I don't think that you're overwhelmed with these feelings. Otherwise you would not ask this question. You need to be yourself more than anything. You'll find women, who love you just as you are.
     
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    Aside from what others have said, I'm pretty sure that there are more women out there who would be attracted to you at your current size than a larger one -- they just may not be conveniently gathered together like are some of those who prefer someone larger. How you find them I don't know, but I really am confident that to many you'd be about perfect. A big strong teddy bear, without being so large that it seperates you from normal expectations.
     
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