hopefully what you traded your oldsmobile and motorcycle in for was worth it. if it isn't i'm sorry. but evidently,at the time, something was more important than your guy toys and that was exactly what i meant.Guy toys are dirt cheap when compared to the expenses associated with having a family. Family is why I'm always broke. This year we spent $16,000 on health insurance for our family of seven, another $1,700 for out of pocket healthcare expenses, $13,000 on child care, $4,800 on insurance for four cars, .... . Luckily the states of California and (ironically) Texas and Alabama have picked up most of the college and grad school expenses for our two oldest (total of roughly $200,000 so far -- thanks guys).
I sold my 1968 Oldsmobile 88 convertible and motorcycle for law school money thinking I'd buy nicer ones when I graduated. Silly me -- I'm driving a 13-year-old Volvo station wagon (the closest I get to motorcycles these days is when I walk by the Honda dealer on the way to court).
most people don't start off with such large families or such large expenses. most people these days are cash strapped. i doubt that when people really fall for each other they have the calculator out--and they shouldn't. life is short. best to get on with living it. life is a struggle. to me love makes that struggle matter. but also the thing to keep in mind is that married men are generally financially better off and live longer. but this really doesn't have much to do with being in the friend zone.
if someone wants a woman he knows what to do. if he doesn't want to he should just leave her alone. he shouldn't expect her to stop living just because he is interested but not interested enough to do something about it. in fact if he really cared about her and could not afford to live happily with her he would let her go so that she would be able to find someone she could have that with because everyone deserves a chance at that. really loving someone means wanting the best for them. IMO as a woman if someone doesn't really love you he isn't worth wasting your time with. better off looking for THE one.