The Reality Of Dating An SSBBW

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  1. Mar 14, 2014 #1401

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    Good to take note of, for myself and other SSBBW lovers! :)
     
  2. Nov 30, 2014 #1402

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    I have slowly been reading this thread, and felt the need comment before even finish reading all of the pages. I have only read to the 20th page so far, but at the very least you have impacted one person to be more helpful to their wife. I met her 12 years ago when she was between being busty and a BBW. Over time she has become somewhere between BBW and SSBBW naturally. After ready many posts here, a lot of dots where connected. She over the years more and more has been telling me I walk to fast. Asking more for help getting up from the couch. And asking me to grab stuff from around the house for her. These are things she didn’t do in the first years of dating. I was puzzled why she was saying this stuff so much.
    I don’t know if I never connected the dots because I think of her as my lovely wife rather than a fat chick (I look at her and think she’s ridiculously hot, rather than fat). Or if its because she was thinner when we met and I never thought about her changing.
    Now that I understand why she is asking for these things, I will happily help her out. I just wanted to thank everyone who has been contributing to this thread, you have impacted others lives. :)
    Thank you so much!
     
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  3. Jun 14, 2015 #1403

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    I've been married to a Reubenesque woman for over eight years. I love every curve and dimple on her body - I don't need a 36-24-36 woman or some skinny bitch who counts every calorie and has no figure whatsoever. If anything, I don't care if she weights 600 pounds as long as she's happy with it and isn't in imminent risk of death.

    However, she always had a problem with feeling embarrassed by her size. On airplanes, she always needed a seat belt extender - however, I as the loving husband would save her the embarrassment by asking for one for myself and quietly slipping it to her. Another situation full of embarrassment was going to hockey games - I LOVE hockey and have turned her into a fan, and this past year we went on two trips centered around games. However, in both cases, because of her size, we had to go to handicapped seating (and in St. Paul, MN, that's WAY up in the nosebleeds, although at Joe Louis Arena in Detroit, I couldn't fit in the seats either but that may be because I'm ridiculously tall.) Of course, at games I embarrass her anyway by shouting at the refs.

    However, for me it's a small price to pay. For her? I understand why she chose to have WLS even if I secretly wish she could be her old size without the health scares.
     
  4. Jun 19, 2015 #1404

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    Yes your right you should have been drop off closer. But I do love to hear a women huffing and buffing, I'd kissing your ass all those miles and rub those toes, shit we would have never made to concert.
     
  5. Jun 23, 2015 #1405

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    For some its a learning process as some ssbbw are more physically fit, confident, able than others; though from personal experience if you cannot provide accommodations for their comfort, clothing, lifestyle etc. then save your $ until then.
    Romance without Finance has no chance, goes for all women regardless of size.
    If you cannot pamper a woman, tend to her needs and make her feel special, I'd personally rather fall back, stay single until I was able to.
     
  6. Sep 22, 2015 #1406

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  7. May 7, 2017 #1407

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    While most men would love to have the chance to give their beloved everything, the truth is that most relationships don't necessarily involve at least one wealthy person, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I'm reminded of the scene from the Christmas Carol, where the Ghost of Christmas Past took Scrooge back to witness his breakup with Fan, where she told him...

    "Our contract is an old one. It was made when we were both poor and content to be so, until, in good season, we could improve our worldly fortune by our patient industry. You are changed. When it was made, you were another man."

    Yes, they wanted money, but it wasn't an integral part of their relationship, or of either of their hearts, until Scrooge began to "fear the world too much."

    I do think certain worldly possessions are needed to support a close relationship with an SSBBW, but not every woman depends on money, in order to make the relationship successful. Enough money, however, can make a relationship more enjoyable, though too much can make it positively torturous. It's complex.
     
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    As a ssbbw it costs me more to live than it does a skinny person. Of course I'm generalizing but clothes, furniture, travel - even my dietary requirements cost more whether overeating or observing eating habits for health purposes. Rich or poor, these are the variables I must consider as a single person. Conserving water by taking 3 minute showers won't work for an Ssbbw, nor will a cheap wall-mounted toilet. Any partner who is going to want to go cheap will have to consider that there are some things that they won't be able to do this with when cohabitation with BHM/SSBBW.
     
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    As I said elsewhere about my wife: luxury comes at a price!
     
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    That is the perfect wording!
     
  11. May 7, 2017 #1411

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    Yes. That sounds accurate.
     
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    Having been out of the dating world for several years, I read this thread today to see if there were any changes/anything new. It struck me funny that I had never thought of the subtle changes I had made in my life due to my preference for SSBBWs, such as cars, dining, etc and the added cost. But you know as I have always thought, what a better way to spend my money. You can Love money and the things it can buy, BUT only an SSBBW can Love you back!!!!:)
     
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    Very well stated. It's everything! Be open and honest about needs.
     
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    This simple one line sums it up perfectly. My partner is a CPA and works from home and she did all my business books until I sold my business. The hallways and doors had to be widened and a large shower had to be installed with a built in bench. The front of the house needed to be changed to wide double doors and at the back custom sliding doors with ramps for her motor chair. Any stairs inside were converted to ramps so that she could move about in her chair except for the basement recreation room. All in all everything is about her and her comfort and worth every penny.
     
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    She sounds very supportive, as far as her means allow for, which is all anyone can reasonably ask. I see why you'd be willing to make so many sacrifices.
     
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    TwoSwords I don't think all we do for one another is a sacrifice. I never pressured her into gaining she loves everything about being a large woman. I enjoy doing everything together with her and she never wanted me to sell my business because she wants to keep her business going which she has. I love when she asks me to rub her body with coconut butter or asks for me to cook something for her. I get comfort in keeping her comfortable and happy.
     
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    Those are the best kinds of relationships. It fills me with hope to hear of this kind of thing happening to someone.
     
  18. Apr 5, 2018 #1418

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    after reading most of the posts i ll put my two cents if you allow me. the topic 'the reality of dating an ssbbw' is of course a very interesting one for me. it would be delightful to date one. and as for what you need to consider, the tips are more than useful. but i think it is fair, and it has been said here and there that there are accommodations to have with every partner we have if we want a fulfilling relationship over the long term. not just a couple of nights or months. if you happen to be dating a fitness junkie you better be ok with her counting calories and going 5-6 times a week to the gym and probably youll need to be in good shape to follow her on hiking or cycling or whatever is that they do on weekends. if you are dating a vegan forget about going to certain restaurants. religion is another matter of course that requires certain things to do... the key here is always the willingness to do something for the other person, to be emphatic and try to help in any way. of course, the perfect combo is a happy ssbbw, healthy, joyful, full of life that embraces her curves, that would be my pleasure to serve in any way i can. thank you for reading.
     
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    The reality is that if you want to experience ALL the joys of being with a SSBBW (and there are many, just ask me!), you have to be willing to embrace the lifestyle as I call it, and all that it involves. It is a commitment, a mindset and many of life's choices are impacted by it. To me, it has been a no-brainer. I have been able to live what started out 25 years ago as a dream, and have never looked back.
     

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