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Discussion in 'BHM/FFA' started by Surlysomething, Feb 15, 2009.

  1. Nov 21, 2015 #7801

    lucca23v2

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    or.. the newer people feel like their contributions don't mean anything because through most of the threads it is always "back in the days, this community was great.. not so much anymore" "The members back then were awesome and made the boards awesome and it is no longer the same and we wish they were back"...

    That can have a way of lowering membership....

    *Shrugs*

    before people get touchy, let me just say... it is not wrong to miss the "old buddies", but when the sentiment is posted constantly on 90% of the threads, it becomes a bit discouraging for new members to post. IJS

    And just as an aside, do you think that what you miss is the "old clique" that use to run in here that you belonged to.. where you might not fit in the same way with the new "clique"? Just an honest question...
     
  2. Nov 21, 2015 #7802

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    I have the top hat and cane, but alas no monocle as well of yet. :D
     
  3. Nov 21, 2015 #7803

    Surlysomething

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    I find it very rare to make a good connection on forums with a group of people. I enjoyed how well we got along and how this really seemed like the best part of the site at the time.

     
  4. Nov 21, 2015 #7804

    BigChaz

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    Write "i love you" on your belly, she wants your B. It wont be awkward or weird. I am nearly 1% certain you are not projecting on her
     
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  5. Nov 21, 2015 #7805

    dwesterny

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    Pro tip: The prostate exam is almost never the proper time to ask for a first date.
     
  6. Nov 22, 2015 #7806

    loopytheone

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    Person I work with: "X refused to answer if he liked you or not. I think that means he has a crush on you".

    Me: "Nah, he probably just hates me."
     
  7. Nov 22, 2015 #7807

    agouderia

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    You certainly have half a point here lucca!

    Too much nostalgia can be incredibly offputting or intimidating for new people in any given situation.

    This doesn't seem to be the main issue here though. It's more a simple lack of participation - all over the board. And that has almost everything to do with the sign-in policy.

    (F)FA-dom, weight fetishes, fat acceptance are all deviant issues and preferences in society today. For most people, acknowledging them, coming to terms with them, being able to verbalize and express own feelings about them takes some time, exposure and a certain learning process.

    Since Dims no longer gives potential new members the chance to lurk, it's as good as drying up the pool of possible future actual participants. (Paysite voyeurs are a different species, they come for what they need and don't actually participate).

    Without having had the option of lurking (for what admittedly was probably a too long time), I wouldn't be writing this here right now.

    On a side note - since I never was or am not a member of any 'in'-group, that's not what I miss. It's more the diversity of people, opinions and issues which automatically comes when there simply are more participating.
     
  8. Nov 23, 2015 #7808

    Green Eyed Fairy

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    Too much "open vagina" and not enough discussions about what it is to be a fat person any more.

    Just my two cents....
     
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  9. Nov 23, 2015 #7809

    dwesterny

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    Not sure what that means. Too much vulgarity?

    As far as too much innuendo, I know I make obscure references all the time. Sometimes they are aimed at specific people and I know it wouldn't really interest anybody (outside ofa small circle of friends). Heck sometimes I make obscure references almost no one will get just to amuse myself.

    Personally I lIke all the posting folks these days and am happy to have the chance to interact with everyone.

    Except Xyantha.
     
  10. Nov 23, 2015 #7810

    lucca23v2

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    I think she means the uncensored paysite...but she is right. not enough good discussion about fat issues.
     
  11. Nov 23, 2015 #7811

    Dr. Feelgood

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    Well, darn. All this time I've been using "Open, sesame." No wonder it didn't work...:(
     
  12. Nov 23, 2015 #7812

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    I also think this is a pity. Not that I'd want people to feel discouraged from kink talk, but....also having the other discussions sets Dims apart from other FA-type sites. I wouldn't want it to lose that feeling of broader (hee hee) connectedness.
     
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    dwesterny

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    Compared to say feabie the level of kink talk in dims bhm/ffa is like nothing. Every post there is about stuffing and "I'm so full, someone rub my belly". I did and still do find the pay porn threads here less than ideal. Their prevalence on the site is the main reason I won't post face pics on the open forum (only in a private album for contacts). I just never saw the site without them being fairly new.

    By the way I am in fact really full, hee hee . Eggs, home fries, biscuits and southern sausage gravy for breakfast. Plus gallons (liters if you insist) of steaming coffee.
     
  14. Nov 23, 2015 #7814

    loopytheone

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    Litres of coffee... that somehow just doesn't sound as impressive of gallons. Kinda makes you sound like a jug. =p
     
  15. Nov 23, 2015 #7815

    Surlysomething

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    I dislike the New Posts link because it's mainly porn. So I get where you're coming from. And I have NO problem with porn, but I wish there was a way to separate it all. I could give a shit about the same people posting the same type of explicit pictures all the time as I don't come to the site for that.



     
  16. Nov 23, 2015 #7816

    LeoGibson

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    Well, then I guess I'll have to take my "business" elsewhere!
     
  17. Nov 24, 2015 #7817

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    Same here - I actually enjoy seeing some of the sets some of the paysite people come up with.
    Just that Hustler magazine shit gets to me. Yeah yeah I know don't look....just can imagine how some people were turned off enough to leave and never come back.
     
  18. Nov 25, 2015 #7818

    Xyantha Reborn

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    Some of the wording is like F/FA click bait to me!

    ---

    I really want to get my guy an Aeron in the next year. As a gamer he spends a lot of time sitting, and I know that he is finding it harder and harder to physically be able to sit for that long, to be able to grind out 5+ hours playing fallout 4.

    I want to go get one priced, and also sized. I need to figure out a way to get him in to sit on one without arousing suspicion. Maybe find a nice restaurant in the area...convince him to go in, then laugh at how ridiculous the price is...
     
  19. Nov 25, 2015 #7819

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    Could do as the Central Europeans do and say 'decalitres' - though that always sounds like beer brewing to me!
     
  20. Nov 26, 2015 #7820

    Xyantha Reborn

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    Its an hour til i meet my family for dinner. I am at a mall but i am no shopper. I have to remind myself not to go get food out of sheer boredom.
     

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