Tips for going to gym with plus-size partner

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mathfa

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Hello all,

As I have mentioned before on here, I am a thin guy in a relationship with a beautiful, larger lady. She asked to start coming with me to the gym together soon, and today made a comment asking me to not be too "hardcore" (trust me, I'm not 😄), and I kind of got the vibe she was a little worried about it. She doesn't usually talk about her weight, but said something like, "you can't understand some things". She didn't say it a negative way towards me or anything, just was stating it.

I wanted to ask the folks on here, what are things I should be keeping in mind with making sure she feels comfortable? To the larger people on here, what would you want your partner to do or not do in this situation? I care a lot about her and want her to be able to feel okay and secure. Obviously I will be a good listener for anything else she brings up, without forcing the issue.

Thanks everyone.
 

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I usually went to the gym on my own.
If my partner (or anyone else) would have joined me I wanted them to treat me as "normal" as in any other place and situation.

I prefer my own pace and so should everyone else. If I want a competition I'd tell them.
I don't want others to adjust to my exercise level to make me feel better about my own results. (that's probably why I was alone at the gym).

If she wants to join you to the gym - check with her what that means for her... Doing all exercises together or everyone doing different things at the same place.

For instance I don't like the cardio bike but the rowing device. If whoever is with me loves the cardio bike I don't want to be in a situation to do something I don't like just to spend time together. (if that makes any sense)

It should be a good workout for both of you but also some good time spent together.
 

mathfa

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Thank you both!

I'm sorry it seemed like sort of a dumb question, sometimes just typing things out like this helps me understand things. If I think about how to ask a question then eventually I get to an answer.

I appreciate the wisdom!
 
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