It sucks to feel like there's a double standard. I will respond more sensibly to your posts later today. For now, I just wanted to point out:
I'm totally amused by the expectation that this will be a shocking statement here
People really don't call each other fat on the board. We may talk about our own fat our what it's like to be fat, but we dont for the most part (or at least I dont) call each other fat.