I'm not too nice to say it.all i can say to the defending FAs in this thread is that ignorance must be bliss. a lot of women here are too nice to say it but here i go. some guys have been here for years with the same old sob story. some have a lot of problems mostly self inflicted. sometimes other guys only get their warped half of the story since those types of guys are not trying to date FAs or showing that side of themselves to their fellow admirers. if i were you i wouldn't associate myself with such. empathy among FAs is a nice supportive thing but sometimes you need to be more cognizant about exactly who you are empathizing with. some opinions here are not really opinions but knowledge. the things already known about them can rub off on you. we aren't allowed to talk specifics here. but suffice it to say if you were a BBW you'd be agreeing with us whole heartedly. i can bet you most of the women here have either had a bad experience or knows someone who has.
I've been here for over a year now and have talked at length with scores of guys who like fat chicks. Those guys range everywhere from professional athletes and those in various forms of entertainment and media to brilliant artists, doctors, engineers, accomplished musicians and captains of industry. Also the typical everyman just trying to make a buck and the open opportunist who has nothing to show for himself except for a 'way wid da laydeez'
Some of them are full of shit as to their accomplishments, but many have provided enough proof (YouTube videos of them performing on TV or in concert, for example) for me to know some of them are who they say they are. A very few of them are honest and real and stand the test of time. I can count them on one hand, two in particular I trust implicitly.
A few of those men never ever post here but are content to lurk and I capture their eye. A few of them strut like they own the place, and still manage to keep both a low-profile and collect us like pretty seashells pretending they care or would like to if only, if only, if only.
As to our own behavior, in believing and trusting them, we have only ourselves to blame but many of us do not speak up especially when they say offhandedly that the one they used to talk to they could destroy with enough evidence he's collected against her.
He will paint the women he talks/talked to as unstable, stalkers, paranoid and misinterpreting his more than honorable intentions. And he will continue to behave this way and get away with it, because he only lets you (all of you) see the public face, the dims face, the face he has cultivated with much care and dedication for years, not unlike a role-playing game.
The internet is a playground for manipulators (of both genders of course) so don't tell us women that we don't know what we're talking about. Be very careful when you threaten or smear us because you may have a lot more to lose than you think we do, and don't you ever try to censor us because we will eventually find a way to expose you.
As for me, I know who my friends are, men and women, because some women will throw another under a bus for a kind word or attention from a man. But if I have learned anything from my own mistakes, it is to own up to MY OWN behavior and promise myself that I will not run down that path blindly again. To guard against my own vulnerability and call bullshit when I see it regardless of the consequences are lessons painfully learned, but not in vain.