Hahaha, my guy has never needed help coming out of his shell and luckily I've never heard them actually comment on his weight. His dad is actually a lot heavier than he is. His sister in law commented that she doesn't want him to end up like his dad. Which is something my boyfriend has specifically mentioned is horrifying and he is super frustrated with his dad for not putting in an effort to maintain his mobility. It was more a we love him and love you and want you both to be happy.