What do BBWs like being called in bed?

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  1. Apr 12, 2015 #61

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    I think it is an interesting topic as well. I trust people to know the differences too, but I also like to comment on things I see. when you're quiet about something it's like pretending it isn't there. that isn't healthy because it can lead people to believe there is agreement with that mindset. it can also not open their eyes to what their positions actually look like to other people. when women's opinions are trending in certain ways and suddenly they attract disputers with second hand knowledge and reasons for wanting to believe what they do and looking for signs to support that ... it only makes sense to speak to that.

    i'd personally be much more impressed with people who ask questions and try to expand on what they learned and draw people out rather than making pronouncements about what other people mean or think about their own feelings.
     
  2. Apr 12, 2015 #62

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    Congrats, but color me unimpressed. I've learned people will often see what they want to see, read what the want to read, hear what they want to hear, conclude what they believed in the first place. It takes some critical thought to not let our conclusions biases to get the best of us, but I guess that's not for everyone here.

    Absolutely. But you are not making clear your point in bringing this up. If we are in agreement on this point are you simply echoing a point I made, or are you countering a point I made with a point that is, strangely enough, consistent with the point I made? You're not exactly building on previously laid points, you're not exactly countering them...

    Are you suggesting I am not being honest with myself about certain beliefs?

    While I think you offer a lot of valuable insights around here, I think you undermine yourself with your constant tone of moral superiority. You may not be "gaslighted" but you also don't know an olive branch when you see one.

    So be it, it's no skin off my nose. Best wishes to you either way.
     
  3. Apr 12, 2015 #63

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    try listening
     
  4. Apr 12, 2015 #64

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    I'm raising the BS flag on the bolded. The "disputers" with "second hand knowledge" were actually pretty consistent with many of the opinions voiced by the women who posted on this thread. I challenge you to prove otherwise, using direct quotes from the thread.
     
  5. Apr 12, 2015 #65

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    :rolleyes:

    When I spoke about listening you missed my point entirely and went on a tangent about dom/sub relationships. Are you unwilling or unable to stay on topic? Which is it?
     
  6. Apr 12, 2015 #66

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    it's one thing too talk about listening and totally another to actually do it. there is a difference.
     
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    Fair enough. You have yet to demonstrate that I'm guilty of this. In your mind maybe I've done one and not the other, but I'd be interested in what an objective mind has to say about it as well.

    Meanwhile I'll attempt to bring this back on topic. The question was "what do BBWs like being called in bed" or something of that nature. A woman who replies firsthand with we answer or me relaying what my wife likes and doesn't like are literally no different for the use of this thread: both answer the question. Perspective is the only thing that distinguishes one from the other, but both give information regarding what BBWs like to be called in bed. It is not "steering" for a man to give an answer, nor is it a failure to listen. (Especially since in this specific case listening to other bbws' answers is useless to me: in bed what other bbws like to be called is irrelevant. The only thing that matters to me is what MY bbw likes to be called.)

    The best part is, and I've pointed this out already, that the male perspective represented here has for the most part reinforced that of the women who answered the question. If you had read and actually comprehended (which is technically a form is listening, something you're accusing me of not doing) you would be able to see this.

    It's kind of ironic, really...
     
  8. Apr 13, 2015 #68

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    sometimes it's really not about you
     
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    I challenge you to, using quotes from me on this thread, demonstrate that I feel it is about me. This is the second such direct challenge I've made to you, the first being in post #64 of this thread. I couldn't help but notice you've elected not to take me up on that challenge and suspect a similar response to this one.
     
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    you:
    " You have yet to demonstrate that I'm guilty of this. In your mind maybe I've done one and not the other"

    pay attention. it isn't about you. what don't you understand about that? I think you are being oddly paranoid. if you know you aren't doing something then just relax.
     
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    Okay, if it is not about "me" then you have filled this conversation with non-starters. I think any reasonable observer who reads this conversation would have reason to believe you were addressing me specifically. Whatever it is you are TRYING to communicate, it is not necessarily what you are ACTUALLY communicating. Regardless, as I have said a few times, we have agreed on more than we haven't. I hope you'll join me in seeking out that which makes you and I alike instead of continuing to focus on perceived differences.
     
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    last time I looked you weren't the ONLY one commenting.
     
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    Uh...don't look now but it's been just you and me for the last 5 days now. It's reasonable to believe you were talking to me. Or maybe you've been talking to yourself this whole time. :p
     
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    :rolleyes: Back to topic.... Doublejm1-- it depends on the woman. Some women are ok with their men calling them fat, whore, bitch, piggy, etc. It all depends on how comfortable she is with it. Oddly enough, some women get into it with one boyfriend, and then with another boyfriend it is completely off limits. (This is due to how the man is using it. Some men are good about doing it for pleasure and would never use it outside of that, others have no boundaries and will use it to demean the woman in public.)

    Then you have women who don't like it at all. Or sometimes (and I am not being mean here) sometimes you rather the guy not talk at all because it ruins the mood. (seriously, not being mean)

    it is just a matter of knowing who your partners is and what they enjoy.
     
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    Every girl is different so make sure you get her opinion but I personally love piggy talk!
     
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    I read that "dirty and tasty." Not what you said, but certainly a possibility...:D
     
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    I love it when my wife talks dirty in bed especially when I am behind and she wants me to spank her big booty.
    She also tells me to grab her belly because she knows that I adore her belly. She also sometimes wants me to pull out and treat her like a porn star.
     
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    I like to be called 'sexy' 'beautiful' also my hearing my name is a big turn on. The last thing I would want to be called is 'fat girl'.
     
  20. Dec 29, 2015 #80

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    I like being called big, fat, chubby, huge but I'm not really down with anything like pig, cow or other animals. Except Kitty :p I like like being a fat kitty ^___^
     
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