Discussion in 'Daily Living' started by Ample Pie, Jul 17, 2007.
I don't have a problem with socks...though I guess I don't have much experience with them in bed!
Ok, now, I did check your profile for your age. While age has little to do with some things in this world, this is an area where 'maturity' can mean a lot. If you are having these sexual encounters with females your age, you might be running into a wall of shyness, if not outright silence. It is not an always an easy thing to navigate and negotiate..and let a person KNOW what you like...and you continue with this last post to tell me that you have no idea. I cannot think of one woman, in my 45 years on this planet, who has said that the direction, speed..etc..does not matter...not one. I do know there are women who 'go along' with whatever is being done, because of not wanting to 'hurt feelings'..or being too timid to speak up.
Haha, I'm 20 years old, cut me a little slack here! You make it sound as if I were 14. I never said I was a sexual wizard, nor did I say anything with the intent of being offensive. I simply stated my opinion straightforward and honestly, and I'd expect each of you to do the same.
we get that, and (speaking for myself, here), it's appreciated.
you've gotta know that you're just wrong. about that.
and i'm sure the ladies you get with along your little journey through life are going to appreciate us for setting you straight at a young age, about this.
what wag had to say was dead on. go reread it.
remember you're dealing with someone's junk, and being the owner and operator of your very own junk, you already know that certain methods of contact (teeth? flame? a swift kick?) do NOT feel nice at all. so traipsing around thinking there's no wrong way to go down on a girl...kind of a recipe for inevitable disaster.
I do see your points, as I acknowledged in my above post. I know it's a highly individual thing, however I still stand by the fact that I was speaking in general and from past experience. Though I guess I should have added a disclaimer in fine print at the bottom.
The act of "exploring different ways" does not imply the use of excessive force, nor methods designed to inflict pain. Terms such as unenthusiastic or sloppy not included. See participating locations. Some restrictions apply. Side-effects may include dizziness, fatigue, and numbness. Cunnilingus is not for everyone. Consult your doctor to learn if cunnilingus is right for you. Many will enter, few will win. (Sorry, had to get that last one in)
ok but in general, it's not an 'anything goes' type of situation. some things go and some things really really do not.
it's pretty important you know that.
p.s. when you say you're speaking from past experience, are you saying you've actually had a woman tell you that there's no way to get that wrong? because if so, the only possible explanation i can think of for that would be someone deliberately trying to screw up your future sex life. seriously. yikes.
Bah, we're going in circles. I give up.
dude! you made a pretty unequivocal statement (there is no wrong way to go down on a girl), and the vagina owners in attendance responded with an overwhelming 'uh...not so much'. to which you responded 'haha ok, but that's just my opinion and in general has been my experience'. to which we responded 'noted, but still...not a wise generalization to make, seeing as it's pretty universally incorrect.'
nobody's trying to break balls here, we're just saying.
check the title of the thread. opportunity for us all to learn something.
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Moi aussi! I actually don't just kind of dislike it. I hate it. No hang up, lots of tries, just hate it.
No circles. You said there was no wrong way, and you're incorrect. Even as someone who dislikes it I know that there are some things which are worse than others. It's the difference between "kind of ok" and "holy shit get your head away from my vag." I don't argue with your statement that you haven't had complaints, but many women won't complain. It's not all people have the guts to say MAN that sucked. They just tell their friends later. A good rule of thumb (or tongue or index finger or whatever) is to ask if what you're doing is right. Because every woman is going to feel things differently.
The socks thing? Eh, preference. I actually don't mind socks because I think feet are gross. But most people think that it just looks dorky. Wearing socks during sex makes you look like a teenager who's all nervous about his first time and golly gee forgot to remove his gym socks! I find socks soft and pleasant but can see why most people wouldn't want them included in ye olde love making.
Maybe it's the socks.
This thread has been most *ahem* informative.I'm really suprised how many women here aren't into receiving oral.I personally love it.I truly enjoy giving it as well but I would totally resent doing so if the person showed zero interest in returning the favor.See for me it isn't just about the actual act.Yes performing oral on me is an almost guaranteed way to insure I'll have an orgasm but it goes beyond that.There is something quite intoxicating about watching someone you are wildly sexually attracted to go down on you with utter abandon.Knowing that someone must have you in that way right there and right then?? One of the hottest things on the planet to me.Seriously.
Oh and I also have to agree that socks left on during the act are silly as well..yet there is something strangely hot to me about a watch left on.I have no clue why this is but there you are.
For me that only kicks in when they want to put their most favourite bit of their anatomy into my most favourite bit of mine... Anything else just feels like the trailers when you're dying for the film to start
As for socks. Nope, no way. It brings to mind every horrid, un-erotic porn film from the 70's and 80's and it you don't take them off then we're not gettin' it on.
<Thinking now> There is ONE exception to the no-socks rule and thats if I've just come home and you're so desperate to have me that you've pushed me back up against the front door. If the circumstances are so hot that theres no time to consider removing clothes and we're limited to just ripping them open then you can keep your socks on, and your shoes and everything else.
And I'll make your dinner and let you watch sports all night and I'll tell ALL my girlfriends too :wubu:
For me, it is teeth. Scraping a tooth across "The Mayor" is a definite NO!
Hands, and soft gentle (suction?). Don't try to pull like you want to get the last part of your shake.
The door scenario is very, very, sensual. I love it!
p.s. If you saw my feet, you would want socks.
Another case of NOT being in my bed and also being a bit 'fast and dirty,' so such a instance is exempt from my sock rule!
i think women talk more about everything (no 'yeah i know!' jokes, please) and if the woman in question was very invested in those relationships, they made up a big part of her life. Plus, women talk about things to try to get closure and b/c so many relationships end without closure...more talking!
i have seen more people touch themselves and then take a whiff, thinking I don't notice it. NEVER the vag, though, and that makes me think she either TRULY doesn't think you notice and is obessed with checking OR has OCD, as someone suggested.
FYI: if you ever thinking you can touch and whiff w/o being seen. You probably can't. But at least you can know that most people do it. We ARE animals, after all.
i like hearing ANYTHING.
if this is a no-holds barred thread, then please, men, tell me why you don't make much noise during sex (if you don't). I've met mostly quiet guys. I don't love the instructions-and-weird-porn-talk guys, but it's great to know I'm not fellating a corpse.
and I'm not kidding about that. Q U I E T. and I hope that's not down to my skill or willingness b/c I've gotten good feedback! Anyone else?
oh, honey! tab A always goes in slot A!
i guess we're talking about buttsecks, again?
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