When did you realize you were attracted to big girls?

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  1. Jul 10, 2018 #41

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    I don’t think it is that extreme. It’s hard to look at the issues and pick them apart, it is not easy to dredge up the things that are hurtful.
     
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    No, I know you are right. I was just looking at the extreme (as you stated). I think at some point, we all get to where the desire for companionship outweighs our fear of rejection.
     
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    I can't speak for everyone, but I'm not saying that at all. Oh, I think it's been at that point, at least in some places, for years, with regard to the social situation. It's a tough situation already, and prejudice and persecution are hard to overcome, even without adding suspicion and paranoia on top of it all, and then, of course, there's the human element, which says that only a fraction of the people who escape those death-traps will also be people we personally like, and who personally like us. If by "despair," you mean "don't get your hopes up," I think that's perfectly fair.

    If, on the other hand, you mean "give up all hope," I think there are still a couple of very good reasons not to take it that far, and one of them; imagination, is available to almost everyone.
     
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    I'm going to toss this over to a different thread. I think what I wrote is severely off topic.
     
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    I hope you'll let me know which thread. It looked interesting.
     
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    Middle school, but it took me a few years to realize I was attracted to more than just chubby girls.
     
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    When did you realize you were attracted to big girls?

    The question should be corrected to:

    When did you realize your (school)friends were not attracted to big girls?

    At 15/16 it was surprising to me, all the girls I had a crush on were to chubby. That said my school-friends. o_O
     
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    Good Point!
     
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    I was aware from pretty young that fat was considered undesirable -- no later than kindergarten certainly when I got teased with "fatty-fatty two by four, couldn't fit through the bathroom door ....". I remember a moment in grade one or two when I thought up a fat related rhyme for the name of a girl in my class who I didn't like ( not that she was fat, but she wasn't skinny and I knew that was enough that the fat naming would likely sting). Then I had this very clear thought break through "I don't call people fat names" (with an understood meaning that I would not cast shade on fat, or on people for being fat).

    So when puberty hit and my attraction was obvious I knew that it would not be considered acceptable to peers or family (gradually I learned to not care)
     
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    Late high school, I think. A big, pretty, very smart girl had a crush on me, and if I'd have more confidence I'd have done something about it. But it was high school, and the other guys of course made fun of girls like that. Peer pressure still mattered. (Sorry Cori!)

    My second year in college, well, my first time was with an older, married BBW whose fantasy was being with an 18-year-oold virgin. Let us say that after that, there was no going back ;)
     
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    I remember being in elementary school that I had this crush on a girl that was plus size. It evolved over the next several years as a teen I would go to the Big Cuties website when my parents were not around. Also then my body began puberty and it was a nightmare. As I mentioned earlier, I would go to Big Cuties and look at the models like AnnMarie and wishing I was one of them. It wouldn't be many years later in my early twenties that it turned out to be that I am trans and being living as a plus size transwoman ever since.
     
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    Ooh! I like this question! Actually, for me, I never really realized it at first, because that would involve having a deeper knowledge of how they felt on the inside, and I never really had that. I was pretty well-liked in school, but more because of my philosophical tendencies (and my good memory for funny jokes) than any common emotions that I shared with my guy friends.
     
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    I was 12 and I really liked superheroes so i was looking up stories that people posted online about their own original superheros. I stumbled upon a story about a girl whose power was getting fatter at a ridiculous rate. I was weirded out by the story and I saw that there were a lot of other similar stories on that site. That was when I first found out that people were into big girls. It all seemed very bizarre to me and I couldn't stop myself from reading more of these stories. Even though it weirded me out, I found it pretty interesting and after a while I realized that I was getting into it. The rest is history lol
     
  14. Jul 23, 2018 at 1:01 AM #54

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    I was like 11 or 12 when I figured it out. At first it was because of Violet Beauregard blowing up into a blueberry (love how I can just drop it here), but then I watched the Jenny Jones show that had episodes about BBWs and the guys who love them. And I was just fascinated by it. And growing up I was always looking into it and stumbled upon this lovely website and felt I wasn't alone. And being here has helped refined my tastes.
     

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