I’m on the other side of that. I have an ex who is more conventionally hot. She and I still have a few mutual friends all these years later (we split up in 2004). Her relationships have all been shit since she dumped me and I’ve been married since 2006. She makes fun of me to our mutual friends because I have a fat wife. As if it’s a bad thing!When a bitchy acquaintance who clearly doesn’t know you well tries to trash talk your ex by saying “you’re lucky you got out early, he looks like shit - must have gained a hundred pounds”. So naturally you scroll through Facebook to confirm and your two thoughts are a) it’s barely sixty or seventy pounds, tops and b) why couldn’t we have dated when he looked like *that*?
When I first decided I wasn’t going to fight my preference for big girls anymore I remember one breakthrough. I was out in a group and we had with us 2 girls both of whom I knew were interested in me. One was a bit chubby and the other somewhat fit. I knew unless we all got sloppy drunk I’d basically be able to pick which one I wanted to be with that night. Neither of them realized the other was interested and I didn’t put them against each other. I wanted to be with the bigger girl but wanted to not want that. When it came time she and I left together and I remember being so proud of myself for choosing her over the other girl. Funny how it took such agonizing to make what would today be a snap decision.One of my favorite things to do was to see a group of two or more ladies out for the evening and approach the cute fat one to buy her a drink or ask her to dance. The look on the other ladies faces was absolutely priceless! When you scan a room looking for the big cuties, you know you are an FA!