I hope this thread will not be seen as an opportunity for controversy or for denying the valid feelings of some of us, or as an opportunity to try to cast people as "prudes" or "biddies."
This thread is for talking about the negative impact that porn can have on a relationship and about setting boundaries. While many women are perfectly fine with their SO's occasional use of porn--some even encouraging it--there's no denying that the ubiquity of porn in our lives can sometimes mean that "it gets to us."
Whether we're dealing with SOs who won't or can't cut back on or stop looking at porn--maybe some who have even stopped paying attention to us in favor of looking at porn, or who lie or try to conceal the extent or frequency of their porn use--or we're talking about the over-abundance of images of women as objects that can make us feel like we have to "keep up" to keep our SO's attentions, what negative effects do you think porn has had on your relationship and your life?
As well, how do you negotiate boundaries--again, in a culture where there is a seeming ever-increasing availability of pornographic images of women--with your SO about porn?
Any and all constructive replies are welcome.
This thread is for talking about the negative impact that porn can have on a relationship and about setting boundaries. While many women are perfectly fine with their SO's occasional use of porn--some even encouraging it--there's no denying that the ubiquity of porn in our lives can sometimes mean that "it gets to us."
Whether we're dealing with SOs who won't or can't cut back on or stop looking at porn--maybe some who have even stopped paying attention to us in favor of looking at porn, or who lie or try to conceal the extent or frequency of their porn use--or we're talking about the over-abundance of images of women as objects that can make us feel like we have to "keep up" to keep our SO's attentions, what negative effects do you think porn has had on your relationship and your life?
As well, how do you negotiate boundaries--again, in a culture where there is a seeming ever-increasing availability of pornographic images of women--with your SO about porn?
Any and all constructive replies are welcome.
