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Loki666

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2019 was the worst year in my adult life. My wife and I separated in May because I just couldn't continue to keep watching her slowly kill herself by not taking care of herself. Then in September she ended up actually passing away from what I had feared she would the last two years. Her psyche meds her doctor out her on had finally killed her. I'm not against people being on meds but my wife was way over medicated as she would sleep 16 hours a day and only get out out of bed to eat, go to the bathroom, and then she would go back to sleep. I tried voicing my concerns to her 2 years ago but she failed to want to listen to me. I tried talking to her doctor who was also my psychiatrist but he didn't do anything. Finally I tried to get her family to set up an intervention 10 months ago which my brother in law told me was a joke. Such a shame that she was such a beautiful soul with so much life then she got hooked on those meds and she basically became a shell of who she was. Now she's physically gone. My high school guidance counselor didn't prepare me on becoming a 32 year old widower. If anyone else is going through this I could really use some support. Thanks.
 

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I don’t have exactly that experience, but 2019 was by far the most emotionally/psychologically challenging year of my life. Just wanted to say I hear you— I’m really hoping 2020 will be better too. Go easy, Friend.
 

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Since November 8, 2016 life has been great. Economy keeps breaking records. Break ups are irrelevant as there are plenty of fish in the sea, & a job not working out is irrelevant as jobs are everywhere. People die of cancer & heart attacks. Even billionaires. My main worry is our Republic returning to a globalist socialist direction & the very thread of law & order, respect, decency, justice, ethics, morality, liberty, logic, & common sense all subverted to a level to perpetuate their abandonment by the majority of us all.
 

Loki666

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I'm at a loss for words on how cold you could be towards a man who just lost his wife by turning this into some kind of political agenda then basically dismissing my feelings by saying stuff like well people die everyday. Well 34 year olds aren't supposed to be dying tragically. If I were you, I'd really think before I hit send next time.
 

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I really hope you were not referring to Loki666’s post

Putting on My moderator’s hat, I need to let everyone know that as a community here at Dimensions we keep clear of Politics, and we also are kind when other members are undergoing such difficult times.

Since November 8, 2016 life has been great. Economy keeps breaking records. Break ups are irrelevant as there are plenty of fish in the sea, & a job not working out is irrelevant as jobs are everywhere. People die of cancer & heart attacks. Even billionaires. My main worry is our Republic returning to a globalist socialist direction & the very thread of law & order, respect, decency, justice, ethics, morality, liberty, logic, & common sense all subverted to a level to perpetuate their abandonment by the majority of us all.
 

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So sorry about your loss Loki666, I lost my guy a little over 3 years ago. I totally understand how that made 2019 your worst year ever. An unexpected loss like that shakes you to your foundation.
I'm at a loss for words on how cold you could be towards a man who just lost his wife by turning this into some kind of political agenda then basically dismissing my feelings by saying stuff like well people die everyday. Well 34 year olds aren't supposed to be dying tragically. If I were you, I'd really think before I hit send next time.
 

Lastminute.Tom

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Sounds like a real clusterfuck dude
Maybe I’m completely off base but it sounds like your holding a lot of guilt around her death, sounds like you feel if she had listened to you that she would still be alive and that’s gotta fucking suck, I hope you can get some access to grief counselling or psychotherapy from someone that isn’t tied to your former partners death because that’s gotta fucking hurt. Shy of murder you can’t really be responsible for another humans life, it sounds like you had something special and everyones probably saying it but man would she want you to feel this way?
I really hope 2020’s a better year for you Loki
 

BigElectricKat

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My advice (for what it's worth) is to keep plugging along through life. Sounds like things can't get much worse, only better. Find treasure in little things you enjoy and build momentum toward a more positive life for yourself. You are young and have so much to live for. If I can do it (at least I'm trying to do it) you can too. Praying for peace in your heart and joy to come into your life once more.
 
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