my g/f of 5 years has been gaining weight for me. she's gone from 127 to 195. she knows i like her gaining but all of the sudden she said her asthma got too bad and she's gone on a diet and is going to the gym. i know everyone needs to be happy but if she was unhappy and is trying to help her health (she always had bad asthma even when she was skinny) now i'm gonna be unhappy with her weight loss. how do you find a middle ground? i just asked her to marry me a month ago and you only get once chance in this life to be happy. did i make the wrong choice asking her to marry me?