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ESPN Cutie

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No way - I think I'm more in touch with my sexual side and find sex tons more enjoyable than most of my non-FFA friends. I think they just like the idea of six pack abs; but I don't think a hard body makes them have life-altering orgasms in the way that fat guys tangibly do it for me. It would be so vanilla and boring to be into thin guys, jmho.
Exactly. When I ask non-FFA why they like guys with cut abs so much, they never say "because abs feels nice"; they usually say things like "because it makes him look hott." Whereas, for me, I like fat because it not only looks good on a guy but it feels even better. It feels REALLY good to be with a BHM and I don't know if my non-FFA friends feel the same way about their guys.

And, personally, I've never had really satisfying sex with a non-BHM.
 

frankman

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Okay, a question from an FA to FAs:

What is an FFA? Female Fat Admirer? I mean, isn't FA a genderless term? Is there a difference between how MFAs and FFAs love fat? Why does this term exist? It seems redundant.
 

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If you could change your preference and be attracted to thinner women/men would you? Or is being an FA something you actually love?
I wouldn't change my preference. I like that I find women of size to be most attractive.
 

Melian

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If you could change your preference and be attracted to thinner women/men would you? Or is being an FA something you actually love?
Nah, it would be pointless. I don't exactly suffer for liking fat men, so why would I want to change my preference?

It might have been easier for me to find a man when I was single if I liked thin men (they are the ones who always approach me), but I'm married now...so it really doesn't matter, at this point.
 

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I like being an FA! But if I could (which I can't) I'd want to change to be "bi-sizual"/able to fancy women of (pretty much) any size.. Oh and to go back in time (about ten months) thus changed.. :$ as we're talking impossibles... :p
 

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Okay, a question from an FA to FAs:

What is an FFA? Female Fat Admirer? I mean, isn't FA a genderless term? Is there a difference between how MFAs and FFAs love fat? Why does this term exist? It seems redundant.
There's a thread about this, actually. I keep the extra F around when identifying myself (at least on Dims) because I feel like a lot of times the assumption is that FA = heterosexual male.
 

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Okay, a question from an FA to FAs:

What is an FFA? Female Fat Admirer? I mean, isn't FA a genderless term? Is there a difference between how MFAs and FFAs love fat? Why does this term exist? It seems redundant.
And why do we even bother to put the "wo" in front of "man" ?? We're all human beings with the same concerns: water, food, shelter, propagation of the species - the "wo" is so redundant. Gosh, I mean, really, when you think about it. :rolleyes:
 

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And why do we even bother to put the "wo" in front of "man" ?? We're all human beings with the same concerns: water, food, shelter, propagation of the species - the "wo" is so redundant. Gosh, I mean, really, when you think about it. :rolleyes:
Wow, that's not even remotely the same.

FA is like the word "doctor", "fan" or "stamp collector" (doctress? She-fan? Collectette?). There's absolutely NOTHING in the word that implies its masculinity.

Fat Admirer. No reason to have the extra F. It's like saying: "I'm a male Picasso admirer. I like Picasso's work in a strictly masculine way." Makes a person wonder in what way chicks dig paintings...

So roll your eyes all you want, but your hyperbole doesn't hold water (oh, another one, "diver" => divester? Dive-elle? Divette?).
 

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Wow, that's not even remotely the same.

FA is like the word "doctor", "fan" or "stamp collector" (doctress? She-fan? Collectette?). There's absolutely NOTHING in the word that implies its masculinity.

Fat Admirer. No reason to have the extra F. It's like saying: "I'm a male Picasso admirer. I like Picasso's work in a strictly masculine way." Makes a person wonder in what way chicks dig paintings...

So roll your eyes all you want, but your hyperbole doesn't hold water (oh, another one, "diver" => divester? Dive-elle? Divette?).
okay, take it easy there. Me = connotation vs you = strict definition. I just like having fun with words.

But what I don't like is men thinking they can define what I like and how I like it. My FFA-ness is not simply liking adipose tissue - it's all wound up with my estrogen and using feminine wiles, so much so that I often find myself not relating to male FAs at all. And plus I have tits and a jay.

Now relax already and channel all that testosterone on good things, like lovin' fat girls.

Or maybe I should have used a happier emoticon and it would have been all better? :D
 

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So after the semantics....
...Does anyone want to ask an FFA anything? I'll be more than happy to answer...
 

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Why do some FAs never walk up and talk to a woman they are attracted to? Why do they either follow her around a store or make those mmmm sounds when she goes by?
 

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Why do some FAs never walk up and talk to a woman they are attracted to? Why do they either follow her around a store or make those mmmm sounds when she goes by?


I think people are shy about approaching someone they're interested in because they'll worry about what they think of them or rather what kind of impression they'll make on said person. However theres more to it than that. I think that its an issue that not only just pertains to FAs when it comes to walking up to someone and talking to someone they're attracted to. Most of my male friends and I have talked about that kind of thing at one point or another. Most of what I hear is that they don't want the other person to think that they're stupid or weird. They're afraid to take a risk looking dumb in my opinion and I think to myself, "well if you find her cute why not talk to her? Nothing to loose really.." but it seems most of my friends are shy like that. I don't find to much right or wrong with this, but only that if you feel attracted to someone and if you feel ready to pursue further interest, than by all means go for it, because you only live once. Otherwise you'll always wonder "what if?" and you'll never have known.


I'm not sure as to why exactly they make those sounds like "mmm" when she goes by, but I'm of the idea that maybe FAs or guys tend to act sheepishly stupid in front of women they find attractive and truely like. I know I tend to mess up my sentence structure and words just seem to come out of my mouth without thought. I've known many friends who worry they'll do exactly that. It doesn't hold me back but for my friends it sometimes does. I tell them go and talk to her anyway, so you look like a fool? so what? If they see you as a fool then they're not for you anyway. I'll admit its not easy approaching someone you barely know and striking up a convo out of the blue, however its always going to be different than the alternative, that of always wondering and guessing.


So that could be some of many reason why a "guy" / FA might not talk to bbw.


If your a bbw and expecting a guy who you think might be "attracted" to you, there's several ways to find out here http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?p=983447#post983447. Only if your interested in him or what he's thinking, curiosity etc etc...., then you should also consider initiating contact first. Why? Well if your wondering those things about him, then why not find out?

Alas I think I'm off topic here, so to sum up my mess of words, and FA that nevers goes up to the bbw they're attracted to maybe on or more of the follow,

-Afraid of rejection
-Shy and socially sensitive
-Unwilling to take a "risk" at meeting someone new,
-Past experience?
-Awe struck? ( some of us become frozen like a deer in headlights when we see someone thats attractive, no joke. I don't have words for why, maybe there isn't any to describe it, but thats what happens to some people..)
-Are you making any contact with them for their noticing of you IE (Smiling back and/or waving or some other common signal that invites them over for conversation?)

I can't think of anything else at the moment as I cant presume to know what each individual fa thinks and feels about women.

I hope that helps a little ?
 

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you're confusing "attraction" with "boner"
This is also a very likely scenario. The worst is when it happens when you're walking and you don't realize until its too late. Its sucks, but its a natural reaction to someone you find... attractive. Its the worst at pools, lakes, beaches, and other "swimsuit" areas. The whole world can see you and You feel really vulnerable. I usually think of something thats not attractive to me to "try" and control it. But usually its awkward.... so yeah. hahaha
 

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On Dims, do you view women who post cheeky/pin-up type photos here as more confident than women who don't? If so, why?
Nope. It's possible that it may or may not take more 'cajones' to post a picture of yourself up in a cheeky/pin-up style photo after a long, disturbing road of being told you're hideous because you're fat. However, just because someone puts on a much shorter/tighter pair of shorts to show off what they have as compared to someone who is fully clothed does not make them more confident. Confidence is a mental attribute, not a physical one (in my opinion).

If you could change your preference and be attracted to thinner women/men would you? Or is being an FA something you actually love?
I would never change my orientation.

Why do some FAs never walk up and talk to a woman they are attracted to? Why do they either follow her around a store or make those mmmm sounds when she goes by?
Maybe he/she is not single. Maybe he/she is too shy. Maybe he/she is not a talkative person. Maybe he/she has some issues going on that need to be worked out before he/she approaches you. There are all sorts of variables that can come into play. Maybe he/she just doesn't want to be publicly known as the person that finds a fat person attractive. It's probably not always like that, though. I would venture to say much more a general nervous issue than a strictly "FA" problem.

I don't know about the "mmm" sounds because I don't do that, but if a creep is horny, he/she will follow you around, methinks.
 

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On Dims, do you view women who post cheeky/pin-up type photos here as more confident than women who don't? If so, why?
Some women love to show their body, some not. :)
But the positive comments about their pics of the here reading and writing FAs will make them more confident. That's what I think :D
 

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So after the semantics....
...Does anyone want to ask an FFA anything? I'll be more than happy to answer...
This deserves its own thread! I think BHM are more puzzled over FFA's than BBW are over FA's.
 

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