Librarygirl
Well-Known Member
This is random and I don't know quite how to articulate it, but has anyone else found that this preference / fetish, whatever you want to call it has added even more complication to a friendship or relationship?
I say this as someone who fell in love with the man who 'brought her out of the closet'. He decided he didn't want more than friendship (we are also long-distance), but still wants to discuss his weight, have me tease him etc. This clearly won't work for me emotionally (much as it is tempting on the spur of the moment), but it's hard as I want us to stay friends and share other things.
Having a 'specialised interest' just seems to make things more complicated - there is always this fear that you are being used as it is hard for people to be open about their preferences/ find a match for them. Equally, does sharing something so personal with others create a false sense of intimacy?
Anyone any thoughts or related experiences?
I say this as someone who fell in love with the man who 'brought her out of the closet'. He decided he didn't want more than friendship (we are also long-distance), but still wants to discuss his weight, have me tease him etc. This clearly won't work for me emotionally (much as it is tempting on the spur of the moment), but it's hard as I want us to stay friends and share other things.
Having a 'specialised interest' just seems to make things more complicated - there is always this fear that you are being used as it is hard for people to be open about their preferences/ find a match for them. Equally, does sharing something so personal with others create a false sense of intimacy?
Anyone any thoughts or related experiences?
