BBW modeling made me feel like crap

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  1. Jul 21, 2014 #41

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    Being a paysite model is not easy. I've been doing it since I was 18. only 3 yrs, but i started at a time when my confidence was SO LOW. I just got out of highschool where people tear you apart for being larger than average.
    Anyways, You have to have thick skin and be completely comfortable with who you are like Saisha said above. you have to take everything with a grain of salt. When I started out, i didnt make alot, and i still know of several bigcuties, that make alot more than me, but it never stopped me! and i think your age doesnt matter. kelliekay and Ash are over 30, even though they are quite huge, age is still just a number! A large thing is being friendly and getting yourself out there, talking to people, taking time to get to know fans. I've grown to love talking with fans, and it may be hard to keep up, but it does pay off. I have realized, paysite modeling doesnt just come like "VOILA!" it takes months and months of hardwork, sometimes even a year or longer to build up a following of fans that appreciate you as a model. And you're ALWAYS going to have people judging you. so having the thick skin helps so much. when i get nasty messages calling me fat and disgusting I laugh it off. When i was 18, that stuff would hurt, but i've built up a skin, and with that skin, my confidence keeps me from getting hurt by fat shamers, or rude men. goodluck to everyone. and I'm sorry this all didnt work out for you abby. I thought you were absolutely cute! and i liked your updates. Goodluck on future ventures, whether in paysite, or not. :) Hugs.
     
  2. Jul 27, 2014 #42

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    To be fair, you've had it a LOT easier than others I know. You first started modeling when you were 18 meaning (apart from the obligatory dickhead fat haters) you've been serenaded by males calling you beautiful the past 3 years. So at 18 years old (or earlier, depending on when you found the "community") you discovered that it was ok to be a bbw.

    A lot of others were frowned upon until well into their 30's (or later). After all the internet wasn't as advanced in 2001 as it is now. There was no facebook, Skype, myspace (dating even myself here), snapchat, tumblr, flickr or any kind of social media other than yahoo groups and aol chats (which here horribly moderated and poorly represented). Size acceptance wasn't as advanced as it is now as well. As much as NAAFA meant for so long, without social media to get the word out, it was as much as underground as anything else.

    The point of this is a lot of women didn't have the luxury that you have, you have been blessed with being accepted at a much younger age than others. They had to develop thick skin and a lot struggle to this day with accepting themselves because of it. I have an older cousin who lives in a different state and during a course of our conversation, size acceptance came into it. She's in her late 50's now and even though she's not really a bbw, she never had the confidence to wear the clothes my fiancée wears when she herself was young because she thought she'd be made fun of, talked about, etc. Her husband obviously saw her beauty as they've been married for many years, but its tough to imagine her going through most of her adult life being afraid of the negativity. Guess what I'm trying to say is that a lot of people are turned off from modeling because they've spent so many years trying to escape negativity and it keeps following them.

    I'm glad you've found inner peace, its much better to see positivity than negativity.
     
  3. Dec 21, 2014 #43

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    This whole thread was such an interesting read, especially since I just dipped my feet into the web modelling world. So far I am having so much fun with it, but it has seriously only been 2 weeks. I wonder if I'm going to feel the same 6 months later, I want to say I will, but who knows the future?
     
  4. Dec 22, 2014 #44

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    I always feel bad for the BBw's that are very pretty, cute, but may not have the perfect BBW or SSBBW body. It has become VERY competitive, just like other modeling. ......Like everything in life, you give it a try, and accept the outcome..... Good for trying...Always keep trying in life.....Never give up on yourself or others....
     
  5. Dec 27, 2014 #45

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    The majority of bigger women that i know are mums in their 30s or more and whilst they arent feedees nor bbw enthuiasts, they are loved for their bodies by their partners not because they ARE fat, but because they love them completely and entirely.
    I see them as sexy because of their size and envy their husbands/boyfriends for finding them sexy regardless of size.
    I could tell a large number of my friends (ranging from 250lbs to 400, from age 22 to 45) to model and they might do well but their hearts won't be in it because being beautiful for being themselves to their partners matters so much more.
    It matters more to them because it DOES matter more.
    I can enjoy their pictures because of their weight, but their boyfriends can enjoy them for the person she is - someone who eats big meals with her family, someone who goes to bars to enjoy friends company, not to be hit on by guys, someone who shows off her gorgeous body to her husband in privacy who enjoys it 20X more than a picture on the Internet.

    I can enjoy your body because i find it beautiful, but it is nothing compared to the love it will get from someone who loves the whole package.

    You are gorgeous and i envy the guy who gets to be with you when you order a big take out, who gets to watch you get dressed up and tells you that you are beautiful, who gets to watch you get undressed and tell you that you are beautiful, and who gets to spend weekday night sat next to you in your pyjamas with no makeup and still tells you that you are beautiful and mean it just as much.

    You are gorgeous. Believe it :)

    Daniel xxx
     
  6. Dec 28, 2014 #46

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    I was so sad reading that post. I have just started my journey as a web model and I hope it's going to be an amazing experience and doesn't end up going the other way. xx
     
  7. Dec 29, 2014 #47

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    I know it's not kosher to talk shop around here but you're in good hands with BigCuties. I've heard nothing but good things from folks who have modeled with them.
     
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    thank you, I've heard good things too so hopefully all will be good. I can't wait to get started. I guess it's good reading stories about people's bad experiences as it means I can be prepared for the worst and know that these things can happen. xx
     
  9. Jan 2, 2015 #49

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    i'd say be careful of absolutely anyone as you would in any job. anybody can get caught up.

    I suggest you look very judgmentally at the situation of the people around you and consider accordingly. are they doing well in terms of health or are they on the decline? have there been a lot of deaths? are they living socially alienated lives? what are their finances really like? do they or have they had to rely on public assistance? are they dependent on you for their living?

    question everything ANYONE tells you. research by quietly asking other people who've been around for very long time. ask enough questions of enough people and the true story will eventually emerge. truly intuition is good. if you have uncomfortable feelings run!

    always follow the money. in absolutely every situation figure out who financially benefits most. if it's not you run!

    don't trust fans. most, especially newbies, have absolutely no real idea what's going on. they will always tell you to do it because you are a beautiful girl and they want to see you. that is their MO. other than that they could care less about your outcome. they're big talkers but for the most part
    (99.9999%) if something happens you can't rely on them for anything even well wishes --as many have sadly learned.

    find some ex models to talk to who have no financial benefit one way or another and are doing something totally different now. if they were dealing with nice people they'll tell you even if they decided to do something else. if they were not they have the freedom to tell you that too.

    a lot work like pimps. they'll try to find out what you're lacking in your life and dangle it in front of you. they will pretend to be family, parents, friends or even a lover if that's what you want or need . so be very careful of emotional manipulation and the dependence they can encourage. don't reveal too much personal stuff about yourself to them or their friends.
     
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    G'day BC holly,

    I will tell you what I told my fiance when she was considering becoming a model. Distance yourself from fans/ppl in general-you don't want anyone and everyone looking up your Facebook page, one of the main things Abby mentioned was that family found out about her being a model and they gave her a hard time about it, assume that your friends and family have access to your content; because hiding it from them is pretty much impossible. Not all guys are arseholes(that being said some sure are). Please remember, once you post content on the net it's out there for ever.
     
  11. Jan 5, 2015 #51

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    Wow. ..ok just 2 cent here since most every one has already said what I'd say too. Im most certainly not in my 20's anymore but most ppl have no idea my age..Beauty is what you think of yourself.*NOT* how much money you made or could have made on an adult website. I did it for years, some weeks were good, others not good. I didn't judge the way *I* felt based on mens or womens comments. I posted my pics cuz I enjoyed it, and I met some great ppl in the business as well. Sadly, I had to stop, and even though im certainly NOT in my 20's, I still get hit on and from time to time I've had old fans ask when I'm going to get a site up again. Not sure at this point it'll ever happen again but I do miss it.

    The internet has become soooooooooo saturated with bbw porn and for ANY new girl that doesn't have a specific niche that's all her own, or very rare, its hard to make big bucks with an adult website. Focus on yourself ;) Not what you think others might think of you. You need to remind yourself you are beautiful everyday :) You'll have to forgive me since I've not seen your content but from the comments I've read, you *are* beautiful...so go with it... go look in the mirror and tell yourself just that! :)

    My point is, dont look at webmodeling so negatively. It takes a LOT of guts to post sexy or even nude pics anywhere on the net so be proud of yourself just for that fact. If u dont feel like having your own site, dont fret over it. There are TONS AND TONS of men that LOVE to look at your photos and never leave comments. ..just cuz they don't doesn't mean they dont like them.

    Again, focus on yourself...inner beauty must come first, and with that comes self confidence, and with that, your outer beauty will shine :)
     
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  12. Jan 8, 2015 #52

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    Awww the beautiful Chicklets, one of the most beautiful Ssbbws. I first saw her when I was like 19 (now Im 31) GOOD TIMES :smitten: we miss you Miss Chicklets!
     
  13. Jan 10, 2015 #53

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    aaww thanks Mario :) Im still around and post here from time to time. I'm more active on FB these days but even then I just look around sometimes lol
     
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    Guys want to see long haired, pear-shaped women. That's the whole point. There isn't a single apple shaped webmodel that is succesful.
     
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    Thx for sharing your stories. Actually I thought every girl has a dream to become a celebrity especially when she is a beauty. But not all of them can realize their dreams. But it does not matter, at least, you have tried to purchase your dream. As for this, I am proud of you, truly.

    Hope you can be happy everyday. :) Life is short, so love yourself cuz you deserve it.
     
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    I think any woman, any shape any style can be successful if they appear to be enjoying themselves. I get worked up over boobs and tummies more than pear shapes, but the hottest part of amy model is a smile and a look in her eyes that says, "I'm actually enjoying this." As Ted Baxter once said, "Sincerity is the most important thing. Once you can fake that, you've got it made."
     
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    I have read about some of the movie actresses in the past. They burned bright for awhile, but when their career slowed to a halt, they seemed to turn to alcohol and drugs.
    It can be worse for BBW models, as society hasn't accepted their beauty and those of us, who do, aren't around to help them back to a normal existence.
    Missouri Fat
     
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    Here I am a year later and I am still a part of the web modelling world. Do I still like it? Yes, but I do wish I did my research before jumping in.

    1. It is going to take time to build up a fan base. If people don't buy your content, don't take it as a personal attack on yourself. We all like different things and you will not be liked by everyone.
    2. It is sooo easy to get on the compare yourself to others train, but DON'T DO THAT! It will change you. Getting in this because people tell you you are pretty and you want to feel better will backfire big time.
    3. You will meet some super mean people, but in the same breath you will meet some awesome people as well. You do need thick skin. People you know will find out, be prepared for that.
    4.Do your research beforehand. Whether you want to be on a private site, multigirl site, cam site, clips4sale. Always read the fine print because once you get into your contract, it's not always easy to get out.
    5.If you don't make it, it's alright!!! You tried and that's all you can do.

    Now, I am nowhere near to being considered successful in this industry, but these have just been my observations.
     
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    I have just started this week being a BigCuties model and I hope it's going to be a beautiful experience. I was so sad reading that post, I hope you feel better.
    I guess it's nice reading stories about people's negative experiences as it means I can be prepared for the worst. I'm gonna to do is as a game - having fun and enjoy every picture I take, I think is the best way to go. Also I don't want to do anything I don't want to do. (But, I admit the pressure from "fans" is very big!"
     
  20. Mar 24, 2017 #60

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    Weeding out the creepy "fans" from the actual fans is a job in itself.
    Fleur I would refrain form actually meeting so called "fans" face to face.
    I didn't think it would be a problem and boy was I wrong.
    Do try to keep is as non personal as you can and don't share your personal email addresses or give them your phone numbers.
    I learned the hard way on that so please protect yourself from the predatory type.
     
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