It's nothing new, but I want to bring it up again. Get my opinion out there. In the past few weeks I’ve seen many comments/post pertaining to how FAs who say they love BBW often refer to pay-site models.
Guilty as charged, yes I am. I'm NOT ashamed, but I feel like some would be posters want me to be.
The fact is I discovered maybe way too early that I was attracted to BBW through porn-mags. Not from some outspoken BBW giving a grand speech about fat acceptance. But in my basement looking at my brothers unmentionable collections (TMI).
And yes I am aware that what I'm about to say may sound stupid, but I'm kind of upset about this, so here’s my rant. :doh:
I'm not mad some feel like that. Maybe I should be ashamed of looking at pay-sites. But I'm not going to for the simple fact that seeing fat women in a porn helped me see that I could be attracted to women other than what society dictated.
When I was a young boy and was still under the spell of following societal norms of what the ideal woman should be; I thought fat women were supposed to be gross. I also used to say "ewww" when I saw a fat woman/man, and make fun of them, even though I didn’t truly feel that way, because that is what I thought I was supposed to do.
Thankfully, I came to my own conclusion around the age of 13 that fat woman are beautiful and being a fat man can be handsome; though I dare not say that out loud back then. Save being crucified. Although, I think being African American, after it was found out, helped. I was not ridiculed and disgraced but I merely got a few chuckles. No one seemed shocked or appalled. I was not crucified by the community like I now know many Caucasians had or may have to deal with. I make that racial distinction because of some stories I've read bring me to that assumption. If that is NOT the case please correct me.
My point is this; the first time I realized I was attracted to BBW was after seeing Susie Sparks in not a pay-site, but a porn mag. Even though it may NOT be your ideal way, I’m VERY thankful for that I opener and respect it. In fact I say a little prayer to our creator for that experience. Also, and I'd be willing to bet that a lot of guys figure out what kind of woman they want perusing, dare I say it...PORN. Not so much from beautiful women in high ranking positions. Because let’s face it, it seems to me that in America, you are only successful if your “thin” AND “fit” AND “Rich”. Somehow if your fat and have money, you’re not part of the success club, and NOT to be taken seriously. And the media won't advertise your picture, your lucky if they flash it for 5 seconds. No my friends the star light for fat people is reserved for those willing to render themselves to jokes on screen. Am I wrong about that?
So if you’re a BBW/FA who thinks that other BBW/FAs refer to pay-site BBWs too much. Think about this, that a pay site BBW may have helped your significant other realize that they like BBW/BHM, and that it’s nothing to be ashamed about. They may be out of the closet because of it. My thinking is this: Hell, if that BBW/BHM can bare all on a website, I sure as hell ain’t gonna hold back and show them my full support in letting them know they are AWESOME. No complaints about how FAs refer to them too much.
Why am I defending pay-sites? Is it because I'm crazy? Maybe! Is it because I'm nasty? A little bit! Is it because I’m tired of seeing FFAs complain about other FAs mention pay-site girls in their arguments? YES!
I also think they help contribute to fat acceptance, as they help show that many American’s like, love and want fat people; and do NOT think they are a joke, disgusting, or to be ridiculed (privately/publicly). In fact, other fat, and not so fat, and thin American’s are willing to pay hard earned money to see their sexy side.
Guilty as charged, yes I am. I'm NOT ashamed, but I feel like some would be posters want me to be.
The fact is I discovered maybe way too early that I was attracted to BBW through porn-mags. Not from some outspoken BBW giving a grand speech about fat acceptance. But in my basement looking at my brothers unmentionable collections (TMI).
And yes I am aware that what I'm about to say may sound stupid, but I'm kind of upset about this, so here’s my rant. :doh:
I'm not mad some feel like that. Maybe I should be ashamed of looking at pay-sites. But I'm not going to for the simple fact that seeing fat women in a porn helped me see that I could be attracted to women other than what society dictated.
When I was a young boy and was still under the spell of following societal norms of what the ideal woman should be; I thought fat women were supposed to be gross. I also used to say "ewww" when I saw a fat woman/man, and make fun of them, even though I didn’t truly feel that way, because that is what I thought I was supposed to do.
Thankfully, I came to my own conclusion around the age of 13 that fat woman are beautiful and being a fat man can be handsome; though I dare not say that out loud back then. Save being crucified. Although, I think being African American, after it was found out, helped. I was not ridiculed and disgraced but I merely got a few chuckles. No one seemed shocked or appalled. I was not crucified by the community like I now know many Caucasians had or may have to deal with. I make that racial distinction because of some stories I've read bring me to that assumption. If that is NOT the case please correct me.
My point is this; the first time I realized I was attracted to BBW was after seeing Susie Sparks in not a pay-site, but a porn mag. Even though it may NOT be your ideal way, I’m VERY thankful for that I opener and respect it. In fact I say a little prayer to our creator for that experience. Also, and I'd be willing to bet that a lot of guys figure out what kind of woman they want perusing, dare I say it...PORN. Not so much from beautiful women in high ranking positions. Because let’s face it, it seems to me that in America, you are only successful if your “thin” AND “fit” AND “Rich”. Somehow if your fat and have money, you’re not part of the success club, and NOT to be taken seriously. And the media won't advertise your picture, your lucky if they flash it for 5 seconds. No my friends the star light for fat people is reserved for those willing to render themselves to jokes on screen. Am I wrong about that?
So if you’re a BBW/FA who thinks that other BBW/FAs refer to pay-site BBWs too much. Think about this, that a pay site BBW may have helped your significant other realize that they like BBW/BHM, and that it’s nothing to be ashamed about. They may be out of the closet because of it. My thinking is this: Hell, if that BBW/BHM can bare all on a website, I sure as hell ain’t gonna hold back and show them my full support in letting them know they are AWESOME. No complaints about how FAs refer to them too much.
Why am I defending pay-sites? Is it because I'm crazy? Maybe! Is it because I'm nasty? A little bit! Is it because I’m tired of seeing FFAs complain about other FAs mention pay-site girls in their arguments? YES!
I also think they help contribute to fat acceptance, as they help show that many American’s like, love and want fat people; and do NOT think they are a joke, disgusting, or to be ridiculed (privately/publicly). In fact, other fat, and not so fat, and thin American’s are willing to pay hard earned money to see their sexy side.
