I'm right there with you on that. Any attention I've had from women has always come after some period of shared activities, never on first impressions, random encounters, etc. I suspect that is a case for some pretty large part of the population, but on the other hand popular culture tends to default to a narrative of instant attraction/connection, so maybe that is more common than I like to think? Anyway, you are certainly not alone, however many of us there are like this.(impressed) Wow. That’s the sort of thing i’ve read about over the years and write into my own fiction now and then that has never, ever, remotely even once happened in my actual life, regardless of the nature or even existence of pick-up lines.