Fallenangel2904
Fat Fashionista
This has probably been brought up before on here, I skimmed but couldn't find it so please excuse me if there is already a thread like this.
What are your feelings on dating guys who are not FA's? Guys who have no knowledge of the SA community, and may not necessarily like a big girl, but like YOU? I ask because I get hit on by guys who are not FA's (Well not that I know of meaning I have not met them through the community) and there is a part of me that is apprehensive to give them a chance. I think I'm just SO comfortable dating FA's- I found the community when I was like 15, I haven't had much experience with non FA guys. I spent a lot time growing up feeling inadequate, finding guys who liked fat girls was an eye opening experience, for the first time I felt like a guy wasn't just going to 'put up' with me being fat, but he actually LOVED that about me. I get scared with guys who aren't into fat girls because I still feel like they may be LOOKING PAST the fact that I'm fat, but I want a guy to genuinely love all of me.
I am on a few dating sites (Okaycupid, Pleasentlyoffish etc) and I mention I am a BBW on there. I get messages all the time from guys who I don't think are FA's but are interested. I recently got a message from a guy who said something like 'I don't care about your weight, you seem like a nice person' or something like that, and see THAT is the type of thing I DON'T like about dating guys who don't like fat girls. I don't want them to like me in spite of my weight, but I also don't want a guy to like me ONLY because of my weight.
It's a bit confusing. Thoughts, comments? What are your feelings on this?
What are your feelings on dating guys who are not FA's? Guys who have no knowledge of the SA community, and may not necessarily like a big girl, but like YOU? I ask because I get hit on by guys who are not FA's (Well not that I know of meaning I have not met them through the community) and there is a part of me that is apprehensive to give them a chance. I think I'm just SO comfortable dating FA's- I found the community when I was like 15, I haven't had much experience with non FA guys. I spent a lot time growing up feeling inadequate, finding guys who liked fat girls was an eye opening experience, for the first time I felt like a guy wasn't just going to 'put up' with me being fat, but he actually LOVED that about me. I get scared with guys who aren't into fat girls because I still feel like they may be LOOKING PAST the fact that I'm fat, but I want a guy to genuinely love all of me.
I am on a few dating sites (Okaycupid, Pleasentlyoffish etc) and I mention I am a BBW on there. I get messages all the time from guys who I don't think are FA's but are interested. I recently got a message from a guy who said something like 'I don't care about your weight, you seem like a nice person' or something like that, and see THAT is the type of thing I DON'T like about dating guys who don't like fat girls. I don't want them to like me in spite of my weight, but I also don't want a guy to like me ONLY because of my weight.
It's a bit confusing. Thoughts, comments? What are your feelings on this?
