"To thine own self be true". . Some of the best words ever written. It's pretty much what personal life boils down to. . I took a bit of flak from some friends and family because of my wife's weight. . Not much, I told it like it was, and from then on. . everything was copacetic, more or less. . Those that could dealt with us did, those that couldn't. . Well that's how it goes. .The bolded part is the most important lesson you'll ever learn. If you try to conform to what others think you should be, you'll be miserable your whole life. Be yourself. Like what you like. If anyone tries to shame you, tell them to f- off. That includes family.