Thank you! I wasn’t expecting all the support I’ve seen here on dims. Good thing that came out of this is that I got involved here, and I may never have if I hadn’t been in that relationship in the first place.One of the things I’ve learned over the years is that break-ups happen for a reason. Sometimes the reason(s) are obvious: he/she cheated, lied repeatedly, stole, drugs, etc. Sometimes the reasons are less discernable. Either way, there are lessons to be learned from every relationship; long-term or short.
Some people will give the advice of “Just get back out there”. I would advise to get yourself time to look at what went wrong (or right) and to decide how and when you “jump back in the pool’ as it were.
While my current relationship is not ending due to anything negative, I still have to consider the entirety of it; what was good (dang near everything!), what was not-so-good (hmm… can’t think of anything off the top of my head), what did I learn (wouldn’t you like to know?), and did I grow from the experience?
This long-winded response is really just my way of saying that it’s okay to take the time to take stock of yourself and your recent break up before venturing forward in life. Chances are things will fall into place for you soon. I wish you the very best!
Part of what makes this difficult, is that the breakup happened so suddenly. We were realizing we wanted different things out of life and decided to separate for a while. I did NOT think we were breaking up. Then I found out he was looking for someone else, and I realized he must be looking at this separation differently than me. I fully expected us to take a few months… maybe a year, sort things out and then I’d move back in and we’d resume where we left off, even if our life goals had changed. It was just a kick in the gut. I still feel like I can’t get my head around it. But I guess that’s how most people feel after a break up.