My fat is result of freedom

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  1. Oct 8, 2008 #1

    Lalique

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    I`m not the most actibe in here, but I have to admit i read the forums everyday. You are all my inspiration and reminding me of how wonderful it is to be free, at every size;)

    I came to learn how wonderful it is to be free. I`m almost crying as I type this, because the taste of freedom is so sweet.

    I have lived all my life hating myself for what I look like and for my lack of willpower around food. Now I realize I am born to live life in abundance and the fact that I am big and my passion for food does not make me a bad person.

    I am me and I am free :wubu:

    So this fall I am planning to indulge myself in everyway possible.

    My pledge goes out to all of you; give yourself the best!

    Live, love, eat, be free :wubu:
     
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    :) I'm glad you are still reading. There is such real emotion in what you write, it is just so plain to see.....from your first posts longing to be free, on to ones struggling with the change, and now it seems like you are getting there. I hope we'll hear more from you as time goes on and you grow comfortable with your new way of life!
     
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    imfree too. I have spiritual freedom in Christ and I have
    a free mind because of things I've learned in Dimensions
    Forums. It's great to see you here.
     
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  4. Oct 8, 2008 #4

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    Thanks for sharing. This post made me smile :D
     
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    what supasis said! i'm so glad your here too. freedom is what its all about!
     
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    Your self-love and freedom is inspiring, I hope to feel the same someday.
     
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    I'm glad you have learned to love and embrace yourself! I know it took a long time and a lot of hard work to get to where you are today! Never stop loving you!
     
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    Thanks for sharing. This post made me smile and i am glad your here too.
     
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    :happy: Who wants hugs? I so want hugs! This moment is so hug worthy *gives out hugs*
     
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    This post is a reminder to me about why I'm here. When I read posts like this, it touches my heart & soul to see that someone is growing to love themselves as they are.

    It's a long journey, but worth it. Glad to see you're with us, Lalique.
     
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    God bless you-this is the sweetest thing I've read all day.
    You rock! :blush: :D
     
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    Just be you and you cant go wrong :)
     
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    Space_Dazee, your offer is wonderful and
    inspires me to stand with you and offer
    the same.
     
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    I'm one of those people who has tried to lose weight repeatedly, only to add more on, of course. Recently, because I've been working in less than ideal conditions, I have become a bit depressed and have been eating a lot to make me feel better. Well, I feel better all right! I've discovered that I enjoy eating outrageously all day and getting fatter as a result. It's a great sense of freedom from that all "have to lose weight" thought process. I've been bringing lots and lots of snacks and munchies to work every day and polishing off every single crumb. I even make sure that I get every little sesame seed that falls off my bagel.

    Count me as fat and happy.
     
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    FlabbyFrank

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    Beach, your tummy looks fantastic in your avatar pic !

    I wish more women would just let themselves go a bit and not kill themself with some totally unrealistic goal.

    Some of us just are not meant to be skinny with flat bellies. Many men like me prefer a woman that is technically obese and has significant lovehandles.
     
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    My belief is we are as we are meant to be!If we're meant to be thin we will be thin.If we are meant to be athletic then we will be.If we are meant to be fat we will become fat!I'm not saying we shouldn't try to change but ONLY if WE feel the need to do so.NOT just because society says we should!I've been BIG all my life.According to the Navy I should only be #145!Last time I saw that weight I was in my preteens......lol. So be who/what you want to be & you'll be happier!
     
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    I used to feel the same way. Now, at an advancing age, with multiple obesity related health and mobility complications, my fat is the cause of a soul crushing loss of freedom.

    I'm dealing with loss of basic physical freedom. No longer can leave my home freely. No longer can walk freely. No longer can stand freely. I am no longer free to go where I want to go, when I want to do it. I have to rely on mobility aids and if an outing requires much more than walking short distances and sitting, I have to schedule for my husband or a paid assistant to transport me and my wheelchair, then push me around at my destination.

    I also no longer have the freedom to go into small tightly packed spaces. No more shopping at small interesting stores.

    I no longer have the ability to climb stairs or use more than a few steps. Not all places I wish to go in the world have ramps and elevators.

    I no longer have the freedom to participate in nature as I would like to. I can only go on adaptive trails and boardwalk viewing areas. Even trying to walk a short distance "off pavement" could result in a fall. Which at my weight could render me completely immobile.

    I am no longer free to risk the most minor of missteps without risking what little mobility I still have.

    I am no longer free to enjoy the beach, rivers, and lakes due to limited mobility and compromised skin integrity.

    I am no longer free to live my life spontaneously. Obesity related health complications that require more than a dozen prescriptions a day bind me to a rigid pill, injection, and topical skin treatment schedule.

    I am no longer free to sleep anywhere I cannot plug in my cpap machine.

    I am no longer free to indulge in many spa and salon services. Too great of a risk of injury or potential infection.

    I am still free to eat whatever I want whenever I want (as long as I can afford to purchase enough insulin to counterbalance it) but what the fuck kind of a substitute is *food* for lack of a fulfilling, rich, actively participatory life?

    I'd rather do, go, see, and experience the world than eat without restriction, TBH, that's why I keep working so hard to get to a lower weight.
     
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    Tracy, this is the most open, honest, revealing, and poignant response I have ever read on Dims. I've had a hard time wrapping my head around the whole gainer/feedee/feeder subculture (for want of a better word) that is part of this community. While I don't judge other people's motivations in this regard, I've wondered if such persons account for all of these consequences that you've so beautifully shined the light of reality upon.
    Goodness! You've really brought tears to my eyes and awakened something within me to "get my ass in gear". Thank you.
    I wish you all the best in your endeavors to reclaim your health, mobility, and true freedom.:)
     
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    Your situation is exactly the same as mine. You're not alone.
     
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    I dislike it intensely. I won't even date any man who is into that.
     

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