Lainey,My ex is suing me to not have to pay alimony because he's claiming unemployment, which he will have to prove. Unfortunately, he's a member of a "Let's Screw Over the Ex-Wives Club' and is the third of them to use this tactic to get out of child support and alimony.
I'm more concerned about the insurance I may lose if he wins. I have to appear at a hearing on July 2nd. There will be no judge, but an administrator who will just look at paperwork and make a decision. I also know the weasel's best/boy friend is good at faking documents and it makes me sad that he would stoop so low as to put our house in foreclosure rather than agree to sell it or even have it appraised just to screw me over. He's hurting himself financially just to hurt me. It's bad enough he rejected me and drove me away but to conspire so that I can't even have insurance is beneath contempt.
I never thought he would be capable of such hateful things. I was a good wife to him until he became controlling and abusive. Now that I see what he's truly capable of, I'm worried that he might not be taking care of Nacho as I once thought he would, as the honorable thing. He has no honor. I don't know this man. He's a stranger to me.
Some men can be vindictive bums when their male pride is wounded. Be thankful there are no kids to add to this nasty mix. On the insurance thing, check with your rights as a covered participant. I know my husband's insurance gives me certain rights that I can keep if he cancels his policy. It lets me (under COBRA) keep my part of the policy for 18 months after he quits. I just have to pay more (my part + some of the employer's part), but at least you have insurance for a year and a half more. In the interim, you can check for a separate policy or go to work for someone who will give you insurance as part of your job. (The state or federal government is the best bet for picking up a new policy.)
Also, I am not a lawyer, but I thought you have rights to examine the documents he uses as evidence. I know in some cases, he has to share them with you before he introduces something new so that your team can evaluate the docs and prepare a defense. If this is not true, I would make my own doc (just like you think he has) and use it as an ace in the hole. Don't pull it out unless he starts the dirty business. Just as you suspect his friend will produce something fishy - you too can produce something equally fishy. Be it known tho, I am not encouraging you to commit fraud, just a little creative writing.
If you know someone who is good at creative and imaginative writing, you should be able to produce documentation pretty equal to any crap or dirt he dishes up.