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TheNowhereMan

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herin said:
indulgence despite consequences; wrongness; and power exchange.:D
well we all liek that now and again, i just dont like it if the woman is in a permenant state of either not being comfortable or unhappy with how she looks.
 

Phaddy

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Stormy said:
As far as power, I like to think about the power food and alcohol have over myself and others, but not in myself having power over other people or them over me. Like I’ve read stories about people being manipulated/tricked or forced to eat more and that doesn’t turn me on at all. Not resisting the urge to eat and/or drink turns me on.

I have found the line between "manipulation" and "not resisting" very thin. I have had feeder tendencies for as long as I can remember, which seems to have a subconscious component that encourages me to eat more than I should in an "indulgence" way given my preference to be thinner. (Is it possible to have a feeder/feedee relationship with yourself?)

My first flirting with this with another person was in high school. I was an athlete and had a gym at my home. A girl at school, Lucy, was worried that she was getting too chubby and thought I could help her. (This is where the line gets thin and Lucy doesn't.) I suggested that her desire for different foods could be overcome if she gave into them in excess. Kind of the "smoking until your sick as a kid and you'll never smoke again" concept, which also worked with Scotch for me. She baby sat for people and we had a routine where she would tell me what she was craving and I would bring it to her. We would sit together while she would consume an entire 3 column bag of Oreos with a gallon of milk on time and two quarts of ice cream another time. We did this for about two months, sometimes on both Friday and Saturday night. It was pretty weird and I definitely considered it sexual, although she and I were not involved. I was going steady with someone else, but managed to work this in as though it wasn't cheating on my girlfriend. My girlfriend actually knew about it, but somehow also thought it made sense as my helping Lucy. Lucy and I would cuddle with some incidental necking after she consumed the craving, but we didn't get more involved. In retrospec, I understand that she did have a crush on me and was expecting this to go further. Maybe she even understood that eating vast quantities of fattening food was not going to help her get thinner. She would eat until her stomach was distended and she was on the verge of getting sick. She was probably about 145 pounds or so when we started and about 165 when we just kind of stopped. She would profess after eating too much ice cream or cookies or whatever that she thought it was working because she was feeling sick, but the fact was that she would want ice cream or cookies again a couple of weeks later. I don't really remember this clearly enough to accurately evaluate the degree to which we were deluding one another. I know I didn't tell her that her eating turned me on, but my arousal was obvious, although I didn't acknowledge it verbally or even really act on it physically. The fact that she wanted to be held afterwards, which would lead to kissing and "rubbing" to make her feel better - again as though this was some kind of clinical act, makes it pretty clear neither of us was really dealing with what was going on. Was this manipulation? Was this enabling? Was there a power game and, if so, who was in control? I start to think that I was doing this to Lucy for my own fetish factors, but then I start to think she was the one who actually did the who, what, where, when, and how. Maybe I was a facilitator. It definitely was a matter of arousal by forbidden indulgence. And it definitely was not successful in helping her lose weight. I regret that I was neither more sensitive to her actual needs or, maybe conversely, that we were not mature enough to really get into what we were playing with. Haven't seen her or heard from her for literally decades. Writing this makes me wonder where she is at, but the reality of time is that you really can't go home again. Who knows, maybe she wouldn't even remember me.:rolleyes:
 

herin

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Phalloidium said:
I'm cooking right now.
I'm on my way. :p

TheNowhereMan said:
so what kinda feast are you in the mood for, i love cooking large meals
I like just about anything. But I :smitten: Chinese and Italian.
 

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My wife and me are very fat. I have fantasies about the two of us getting drunk with her 300-pound sister and having sex. For us, talking about, and planning a drunk, is very erotic. For example, on Friday morning my wife might say "I feel like gettin' drunk tonight." She couldn't get me any hotter if she said "let's go to bed" I have other fettishes, too
 

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Phaddy said:
Stormy said:
As far as power, I like to think about the power food and alcohol have over myself and others, but not in myself having power over other people or them over me. Like I’ve read stories about people being manipulated/tricked or forced to eat more and that doesn’t turn me on at all. Not resisting the urge to eat and/or drink turns me on.

I have found the line between "manipulation" and "not resisting" very thin. I have had feeder tendencies for as long as I can remember, which seems to have a subconscious component that encourages me to eat more than I should in an "indulgence" way given my preference to be thinner. (Is it possible to have a feeder/feedee relationship with yourself?)

My first flirting with this with another person was in high school. I was an athlete and had a gym at my home. A girl at school, Lucy, was worried that she was getting too chubby and thought I could help her. (This is where the line gets thin and Lucy doesn't.) I suggested that her desire for different foods could be overcome if she gave into them in excess. Kind of the "smoking until your sick as a kid and you'll never smoke again" concept, which also worked with Scotch for me. She baby sat for people and we had a routine where she would tell me what she was craving and I would bring it to her. We would sit together while she would consume an entire 3 column bag of Oreos with a gallon of milk on time and two quarts of ice cream another time. We did this for about two months, sometimes on both Friday and Saturday night. It was pretty weird and I definitely considered it sexual, although she and I were not involved. I was going steady with someone else, but managed to work this in as though it wasn't cheating on my girlfriend. My girlfriend actually knew about it, but somehow also thought it made sense as my helping Lucy. Lucy and I would cuddle with some incidental necking after she consumed the craving, but we didn't get more involved. In retrospec, I understand that she did have a crush on me and was expecting this to go further. Maybe she even understood that eating vast quantities of fattening food was not going to help her get thinner. She would eat until her stomach was distended and she was on the verge of getting sick. She was probably about 145 pounds or so when we started and about 165 when we just kind of stopped. She would profess after eating too much ice cream or cookies or whatever that she thought it was working because she was feeling sick, but the fact was that she would want ice cream or cookies again a couple of weeks later. I don't really remember this clearly enough to accurately evaluate the degree to which we were deluding one another. I know I didn't tell her that her eating turned me on, but my arousal was obvious, although I didn't acknowledge it verbally or even really act on it physically. The fact that she wanted to be held afterwards, which would lead to kissing and "rubbing" to make her feel better - again as though this was some kind of clinical act, makes it pretty clear neither of us was really dealing with what was going on. Was this manipulation? Was this enabling? Was there a power game and, if so, who was in control? I start to think that I was doing this to Lucy for my own fetish factors, but then I start to think she was the one who actually did the who, what, where, when, and how. Maybe I was a facilitator. It definitely was a matter of arousal by forbidden indulgence. And it definitely was not successful in helping her lose weight. I regret that I was neither more sensitive to her actual needs or, maybe conversely, that we were not mature enough to really get into what we were playing with. Haven't seen her or heard from her for literally decades. Writing this makes me wonder where she is at, but the reality of time is that you really can't go home again. Who knows, maybe she wouldn't even remember me.:rolleyes:
This is fascinating. The psychology of sexuality is so dynamic and interesting. I'm sure she remembers you dude, I mean something so bizarre as this would be hard to forget...

From your account I would agree that she had some thing for feeding and you were more of an enabler for her...although it is bizarre that you happened to suggest over-indulging in food as a way to help her lose weight and she happeend to respond so positively..what were the odds???

Personally I agree with what people said about the appeal of "indulgence despite consequences" thing...

My fantasies often revolve around the exchange of power as one partner (it can be male or female, doesn't matter) indulges in overeating and becomes obese over a period of time, gradually having to be cared for more and more by other partner (who, in these fantasies, is always very physically fit to provide the utmost contrast to the feedee partner).

The idea of sex between two fat people has never appealed to me...it is all about the contrast of an extremely fit partner and an extremely unfit one for me. This is why I work out a lot to fulfill these fantasies from the fit perspective.

This may sound strange I have always wished that there was more SSBBW porn where the male partner is extremely muscular and fit. I mean most supersized stuff I've come across is just supersized women doing whatever by themselves. Very rarely does the porn contain a man pleasuring the woman, and if it does he's usually pretty skinny and normal looking, which kind of kills this particular fantasy.

I did see one clip with Lushes Thunder where the dude was somewhat jacked but I'm talking like a really buff dude w/a really big girl. The contrast is so dynamic and sexy.

Closest I've seen to this is the awesome website herfirstfatgirl.com where BBW Mandy Blake pleasures these normal pornstars (you know, skinny, huge silicon tits etc. who happen to be really hot)

Strangely I would never be aroused by one of these skinny porn stars alone or with another skinny porn star. It is the contrast of Mandy's fat body and the other girls' fitness that turns me on with this particular website, which, as far as I know, is one of a kind. I mean before I saw this shit I was never even into girl on girl action.

The porns I've seen that feature two or more BBWs making out etc. just do nothing for me and are a turnoff if anything because there is no contrast. The thought of two fat partners huffing and puffing is not erotic for me..

I also find it very strange how some of the guys here are into "girls of all shapes and sizes". I mean I have found some skinny women attractive, but there is this size threshold where they have to be at least very thick for me to really be into them sexually, as I have discovered after a shitload of awkward experiences with skinny girls who just couldn't do it for me.

I always assumed the whole fat thing kind of ruled out an attraction to skinny women as well..
 

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While I do find thinner women attractive (and on occasion am shy around them for their beauty), I don't find them sexually appealing. For me, big women have it both: they're both devestatingly gorgeous, and have bodies that arouse me, sexually. It's like, fat women have all the strengths of thinner women, but none of their weaknesses heheh

I, too, am very much so into "contrast." I love the idea of a thin woman with a (SS)BBW or a thin, muscular guy with a (SS)BBW. But the idea of sex is a huge turn off for me. I can't have an orgasm during sex for some reason. I hate porno (no matter what size the women are). I guess, I just find it to be so overrated. Everything seems so sexual, nowadays. And movies are mentioned in some reviews as being "sexy" (even if it's a movie like Batman Begins or something random) and it's just so annoying. Society shoves it down my throat, and I think it's part of why I can't stand it.

For me: feederism, indulgence despite consequence, laziness, BDSM (I'm assuming this is the one that talks about power over someone else) etc. These are what do it for me. I love the idea of a woman who has little or no inhibitions when it comes to food. I mean, the fatter they get, the more food they need, you know? They can't stop eating and it becomes an addiction. Of course, this is sad in real life and I'm assuming most of us here are adults and can differentiate between fantasy and reality.

Laziness is also wonderful. At school, if I end up with a long break between classes, I'll probably sleep in my car. The other day, I did this and had a few sporadic dreams. One of them was a quick image of my girlfriend really fat (although she is slightly chubby). She was on my bed, trying to reach her bandanna on a chair at the foot of it. She leaned forward twice, greatly exerting herself, reaching as far as she could, and gave up panting. I woke up and my pants were a little tighter.

I often find myself being my own feeder, as well. I won't be hungry at all, but in my head I can hear myself saying "go ahead. It'll taste really good." Especially since I stay up really late most nights (it's my only chance for freetime, mostly) and get the urge to eat simply because it'll help me get fatter to eat this late. Trying to lose weight is hard when your sexual fetish happens to revolve around overeating and getting fatter.

Passing gas is another wonderful little delight to me. I know that no one really understands it, but I am on a never-ending quest trying to get people to. I don't care if you agree with it, I just don't want to be considered "weird."

But the attraction to bodily gas from a fat woman is related to different parts of the fetish. One is that it is a clear sign of gluttony. It is a clear sign that this person has eaten quite a lot and needs to relieve some pressure in their stomach. I also like it from a humiliation standpoint. A fat woman being embarrassed because her farting is disturbing the (thinner) people around her is so hot to me. Possibly a little too hot heheh

Another reason I like it, is a little hard to explain. But fat people are so soft and plush. They have these cushiony bodies that I love. And the sound of a fart seems to compliment that look. It almost seems like if you squeezed a fat person, they wouldn't necessarily fart, but this is the sound you would hear.

I really enjoy talking about my fantasies and fetishes (I seem to find myself doing it at great lengths in other threads on this board). This is a great topic.

And as a final thought, another thing that turns me on about a fat woman is confidence. No matter how many stories I write where the protagonist is ashamed to be fat, or how my fantasies revolve around women getting fatter even though they don't want to, there is nothing sexier than a woman who is proud and happy in her body. Seeing a big girl wearing form-fitting clothing gets me everytime. Of course, not just because of the obvious sexual appeal, but because it shows how confident that woman is.

So big girls out there that may be reading this, remember: there is very little sexier than a girl who is happy at whatever size she is. Don't try to hide it. Your body is beautiful.
 

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Phaddy said:
I have found the line between "manipulation" and "not resisting" very thin.
That’s a good point. It reminded me of a boyfriend I had who didn’t want to get drunk around me. I didn’t tell him it turned me on or anything about it and he had some crazy idea that he should act all responsible and tried to give me the impression that he didn’t drink much. I would always keep beer around even though I don’t drink it, and offer it to him whenever he came over. Hey, I was just being a good hostess. ;) It was exciting to see his eyes light up with desire whenever I did, and he would always drink at least a few. He would also drink whiskey secretly, or so he thought, trying to hide the smell with gum and stuff which was quite hilarious, since I love the smell of alcohol and can always detect it if someone has been drinking at all, and also a turn-on.

Thanks for the story; it was interesting and erotic. :)

coyote wild said:
But the idea of sex is a huge turn off for me. I can't have an orgasm during sex for some reason.
I like the idea of sex with certain people, the physical contact, affection and closeness with someone I like and am attracted to is nice, and some things about it turn me on, but not enough to have an orgasm. For that I have to think about something unrelated to sex, and I’ve thought that’s part of what having a fetish is. But I can do that during sex. Generally during foreplay it’s about someone just starting to give in to temptation and eating and/or drinking too much, getting more and more into it and other aspects of their life becoming less important, slacking on other responsibilities until it is pretty much their sole activity and then at the moment of orgasm I’m usually thinking about someone passing out and/or being so fat they can barely move.

Having a fetish might make sex more difficult and/or less satisfying, but it enhances masturbation at least for me, and seems to make sex less necessary. Although I'd rather not, and want to have better sex, I also feel like I could go the rest of my life, and have several years at a time, without it, when many other people seem to really miss it if they haven't had it in awhile.

coyote wild said:
Passing gas is another wonderful little delight to me. I know that no one really understands it, but I am on a never-ending quest trying to get people to. I don't care if you agree with it, I just don't want to be considered "weird."

But the attraction to bodily gas from a fat woman is related to different parts of the fetish. One is that it is a clear sign of gluttony.
I get it, as far as being a part of gluttony, and occasionally think about someone passing gas during my fantasies although it’s never the focus. Everyone’s weird, so it’s all normal. :)

coyote wild said:
I really enjoy talking about my fantasies and fetishes (I seem to find myself doing it at great lengths in other threads on this board). This is a great topic.
Me too. This is the only place I can discuss stuff like this with people who understand and have similar fantasies.
 

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Over my years silently trolling the dimensions forums, these threads have always been the ones that interest me the most. So I couldn't help but register and put in my 2 cents in ;). I'm 19 (almost 20), male, and I've been coming here since maybe around 98' or 99' - back in the original Kelligrl era.

One thing that fascinates me about my fetish is that it has been a part of me since I can remember. I remember back when i was 5, I was totally fixated on this one tiny toons adventure episode where babs bunny is caught by some bad guy. He sticks a bunch of carrot cake pies in front of her, knowing she cant resist them and basically has her handcuff herself by becoming immobile. I did experiment with stuffing my own clothes as a kid and even stole my sisters barbies and stuffed their clothes with tissue :shocked: (who said boys can't play with barbies?).

I think that this all started from the very young age - where I was first starting to notice things like being naughty, indulgence, etc. I stronly remember witnessing my somewhat fat mom doing situps and cursing at herself (unaware of my little ears listening) for letting herself go. She was very mad at herself, and may have been my first witness of "naughty" behaviour. I grew up staring at any roll of fat peaking over a girls pants whether it be 1cm thick, or 5inches.

I can honestly say that I am both attracted to skinny woman and all ranges of fat woman. I find in skinny girls, I look for big hips and basically, when intimate, am extremely turned on by any bit of fat I can get my hands on. So even if a girl is very thin, as long as she has that little spot where there is a bit of fat, im happy, I guess I'd look at it as "potential". I consider myself a "snuggler", meaning whatever woman I am involved with, I have an uncontrollable urge to snuggle them up :smitten: and I think this has to do with a since of comfort I attribute to a fat woman.

As far as fantasies regarding feederism go, I find that I really like laziness, signs of being out of shape (out of breathe) and seeing fat bulge out of and struggle for space in clothes (a sign of weight gain). I have only been in one sem serious relationship (I'm only 19 remember) and the girl was pretty skinny, although she had some big hips. She had very body image and for a while wouldn't allow any intimacy because she had put on some weight. This obviously was hard for me to deal with :( . During talks with her about body image and her weight, I often found myself telling her that she shouldn't exercise, that I didn't want her to put herself through that. I often would feel very guilty after these talks, knowing my own semi sinister reasons for saying what I had. I also was very up front with her about my preferences, I didn't tell her "I like 400 lbs woman that gain weight". I told her something more subtle like "I like woman with some meat on them".

So thats me in a nutshell, bah this is long isn't it? Sorry :D

~jayfa
 
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