FA Dating Frustrations

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  1. Jun 25, 2019 #1

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    well reality is often disappointing (lol had to make that joke)
    but ive been looking for some bigger girls in my area but they all seem to smoke or have boyfriends.
     
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  2. Jun 25, 2019 #2

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    How's this for screwed up: I've never smoked (anything) and never will. I dislike smoking immensely. But I've kissed gals who smoked and found it to be a turn-on. What's up with that?!?!?o_O
     
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    i need to be well prepared for a relationship since i never had any.
     
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    I have a similar problem, all of the women that I'd be into in my area are taken. Or consider me to be unworthy of consideration. Someone actually told me that recently! How rude!
     
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    same here, when i asked a plus size girl out to prom she said she would rather go alone.
     
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    It like, I'm not going to say that any woman owes me anything at all. But I respectfully request that I not be treated like I'm less than garbage. That shit hurts. Okay, getting off-topic, rant over. Sorry folks!
     
  7. Jun 26, 2019 #7

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    its ok same thing happens to me. ill find someone eventually
     
  8. Jun 26, 2019 #8

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    So difficult to find a SSBBW that isn't happily married.
     
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    Yeah, especially for my generation
     
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    oof yeah i never found the one yet but i hope to get rid of this curse lol
     
  11. Jun 27, 2019 #11

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    Conventional wisdom holds that men aren't attracted to SSBBWs. Well, every time I see one in Walmart, she's got a kid or two in the cart. Kids don't make themselves :)
     
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    It's naive to suppose that the person you meet will never be upset or need support in anything, but I haven't seen anyone supposing that yet. However, when two people are part of a relationship, and one consistently puts down roadblocks and the other doesn't, guess which one is more responsible if it fails?

    Each person is responsible for their own actions, and when someone chooses to treat others with prejudice, based on some irrelevant experiences, that's on them.

    What I would say is that generally, if a woman is kind, confident, open, friendly, but not arrogant, then she probably is either married or involved with someone, and for good reason. People are drawn to those who accept personal responsibility, intentionally find solutions to their problems and make themselves likable as people. Victims are not romantic.
     
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    You’re right about those roadblocks when someone is already in a relationship. But the post I referenced was speaking to defenses not IN a relationship but in meeting people. To dismiss experiences as “irrelevant” undermines life’s most important teacher.

    A person, any person, owes it to himself or herself to learn from experience. If a woman has been burned a few times by guys who claim to be okay with her weight, is it not reasonable for her to start exercising more caution with future prospective guys? Thats not necessarily prejudice so much as prudence.

    Definitely agree with your last paragraph.
     
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    I don't really disagree per se, but I think it can go either way. A person can learn to be prudent and cautious, but that's not "punishing" others as such. Taken too far, however, it can turn into an ironclad self-fulfilling prophecy.

    Sweet! :)
     
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    Not only that many of the fat women around already have boyfriends. But also the ones I know have some self-esteem just in the foreground. In the background they all want to do or have done WLS which makes me wanna cry. They want to be loved but reject people which them really want and love. Then they do WLS and lose all what I find sexy.
     
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    I hate to break it to you but it's hard to be "prepared" for any relationship. Every relationship is like a science experiment: you are putting two unknown chemicals together and watching to see how they react. Sometimes you mix water with alcohol and there doesn't seem to be anything really going on. Sometimes you mix oil and vinegar and it mixes together well for a while but then separates again. Then there's sodium iodide mixed with hydrogen peroxide. It can be an explosive, expanding result. You never know what you are going to get when you initially bring two people together.
     
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    Nice analogy. :) I'm looking for a peas 'n carrots kind of thing. :p
     
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    It really was a good analogy, wasn’t it? I guess that’s why we use the term “chemistry” to describe how well a couple meshes. Or reacts, if you will.
     
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    Yeah, I wasn't so clever. I just quoted Forrest Gump. :p
     
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    <-----Leave it to a nerd to make a science analogy.;)
     
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