2. apparantly fat girls don't communicate verbally! did you guys know this already? i had no idea. instead, turns out the proper way to introduce yourself to one is by handing her food. makes sense though, right? i mean i know that i for one don't even understand simple gestures if there isn't a big mac involved.
3. where do fat girls hang out? why dunkin donuts, of course!
I agree with Ruby. Rsoxrule's post was unquestionably crude, but I got the impression that it was written with tongue firmly planted in cheek. His overall message was a positive one: don't worry what other people think and embrace being an FA.Well, i actually thought this was cute. If a guy picked me up in Dunkin Donuts Id be quite delighted and I have been given boxes of sweets before by FAs and never been insulted. It was meant with sweet sentiment, and some gentle humour. I just don't think every post on the boards needs to be torn apart when it doesnt talk about loving women for our souls, inner selves, liberated... vaginas, or whatever. First attraction in a relationship is usually physical, fact. NO matter how "above" that some people might think they are. You never know, a guy who walks up to you in a chocolate shop (well you didnt get fat by eating lettuce), might actually have a wonderful mind, intellect and be the sweetest guy alive. The fact he is an FA should be an added advantage . If he is an ass or only interested in your fat then you'll soon work that out, just as quickly as if you met him in a bar and he never bought you anything but a gin and tonic.
I think that you're intelligent enough to know that Dimensions is certainly a place that at the very least, tolerates the liking of big women , regardless of what you say about it. I think that you're aware of that very clearly, but at the same time, you're pushing that button. The fact that you're willing to go that far out on a limb to make it clear that you're VICTIMIZED, VICTIMIZED, VICTIMIZED says something about you that you've yet to confront as a human. That is a character trait that you need to drop if you want to advance as a person and socialite. This may sound very much like armchair psychology, but I'm calling this like I see it.@kerrypop: It's not that *I* feel like a slimeball for liking big women, it's that I come here and get slammed for doing so, which makes me FEEL like a slimeball pervert. I had thought that Dimensions was a place where ALL who like bigger women were tolerated. But then I turn around and get flack for "trying to force my perverted views on all women" which makes me FEEL like a slimeball for liking what I do. Am I making sense?
After the less than enthusiastic response to the first thread I ever tried to start here at Dimensions, I find myself questioning my FA-dom. Is it WRONG for me to like big women? Apparently so, according to many of you here.
Because, as a man, I should NEVER, Eeeeeeeeeeever, tell a women what to do with her body, I am WRONG in being an FA.
Because I like big women, but women don't like being big, I am a-GAIN, wrong in being an FA.
Because I'd rather look at a healthy, plus sized woman, than a rack of ribs, I AM WRONG in being an FA.
Because I am a man, I am wrong in being an FA.
Because I am a man, I should have no opinion on what attracts me to a women, because she can look any way she wants.......I am wrong in being an FA.
Because I am a man, I should have no opinion on FA-dom whatsoever, I am wrong in being an FA.
Because being an FA is sick, wrong and gross, and wanting a woman to eat until she becomes fat is sick, disgusting and gross, I am wrong for being an FA.
Because liking big bellies is wrong, since women don't like having big bellies, I am wrong for being an FA.
Being a man is wrong. Therefore, I am wrong by birth.
These are but a few of the sentiments that have been impressed upon me during my short time here at Dimensions. And let me tell you.......this has me more than a little confused. But I guess the bottom line is...........I just don't fucking know anymore.
But if this is TRULY a "size acceptance" board, please explain the "Plus size Paysite" section, and all of the thousands of stories (one of which I WAS writing myself before all this happened) about fattening women up.Karnage-
I think the first thing you need to do is pack up your emotional baggage and put luggage tags on it and send it off someplace. Because really, your anger/rage issues are totally out of proportion to responses on an internet site.
Considering how much I requote Red Hot Ava on this statement, I feel bad she's not getting royalties, but here goes: this site is about size acceptance, not fat supremacy. One thing that is virtually never well received is when a man talks about changing a woman's body. It's come up in various incarnations and in nearly ALL instances, yes, the women do get angry about it b/c feeling as if you have the right to change somebody else's body for the sole reason that it would become more sexually appealing to you is just all sorts of wrong. And if you read any thread in which an FA asks how he can encourage his partner to change her appearance, he will nearly always get negative repsonses from many women, both SSBBW's and average size women.
Human sexuality is at once very complex and very simple. You like what you like. You just do. You may or may not feel as if you need to figure out why you have the preferences you do and you may or may not feel the need to explain them to others. For me, the sum total of what I say both to myself and to others is "I don't know why, but I just think bigger guys are cute." I don't know you or your peer group or family or if anyone around you will or won't care who you date--those are issues you can work out on Dims if you present them in a calm and rational manner. Most FA's will likely be happy to share their experiences with you.
As to the extent of your FA'ness. You may or may not really know where you are with it, or you may know but it's still sort of working its way to the front of your brain. Sometimes it can be a difficult thing to get your head around (WTF??? Why do I only get a hard on when I see a woman who is 350 lbs or more? Why do I need to think of feederism and weight gain in order to get aroused?) but given time, it'll come to you.