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This may be a necropost, but I was looking for something on the subject and saw that I didn't mention this when I made my other post in this thread:

FFA & BHM/SSBHM couples are SO GODDAMN CUTE. Doesn't matter if the FFA is one of those tiny little ones or a big girl herself, there is something amazingly adorable about that matchup. The few pictures I've seen of a FFA holding her man (and his squishy parts) are infectiously happy-inducing.
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This may be a necropost, but I was looking for something on the subject and saw that I didn't mention this when I made my other post in this thread:

FFA & BHM/SSBHM couples are SO GODDAMN CUTE. Doesn't matter if the FFA is one of those tiny little ones or a big girl herself, there is something amazingly adorable about that matchup. The few pictures I've seen of a FFA holding her man (and his squishy parts) are infectiously happy-inducing.
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I agree, too.:happy:
 

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I'm batshit mad for fat boys, and relationship wise, only see myself with men, but I have fantasies about exploring with a big girl and find chubbier women exciting to look at. And still yet, I am one of those FAs that thinks I look better thin and maintain my smaller size (bit of a contrast fetish).
 

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Although I don't think "should" really enters into it, my personal preference is...

Women: Plump, curvy
Men: Slender, well muscled

I think I find elegance and strength, with hard lines, deep shadows, and sharp angles, aesthetically appealing. Yet, I'm more sensually attracted to curves.
 

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I don't care. I like women AND I like my women fat. Funny thing my little sister is as athletic as I am and she prefers her men fat.
 

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I Im bi in fat fetish, i like man and woman,out from fat fetish i im straith woman only,This is so individual ,i discover in the age of 18 that i like fat man non just fat woman.
 

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I appreciate the beauty of fat and thin women and of fat and thin men, but I'm only attracted to fat men. Many fat guys find that people on the gay scene reject them altogether, because they're not physically attractive to them. People do this to me but it doesn't really bother me. I'm happy to be friends with anyone, even though I'm only attracted to fat men.
 

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I’m not attracted to men in the slightest, I’m actually a little revolted sexually at male bodies that aren’t mine.(how I found out I wasn’t bi) that said I understand the appeal of larger men because I like larger women. Some of the same traits on one I would be turned off on in the other. Take bellies for instance. The rounder and bigger a women’s belly is I go crazy. On a guy, I find it wholeheartedly unattractive.
 

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I would also like to add that this is not about how you want your own body to look like
I've already commented on this thread but would like to add something. There is one way in which I feel differently towards fat men and fat women. As a gay gainer, one of the extra dimensions to my friendships with fat men is that I might be so impressed with some aspect of their appearance that I wish to copy it myself. I never have this reaction to a fat woman, no matter how beautiful I think she is. I might find that a guy, who is fatter than me, inspires me to work harder at gaining. I might like something about the way he dresses, which I decide to imitate. For example, I once saw a fat guy wearing his belt buckle to the side, because it doesn't dig painfully into the belly in that position. I do that quite often myself now. I might ask a fat guy where he bought a shirt or a pair of braces (suspenders) that I like.

So, one of the differences in my feelings and behaviour towards fat men but not fat women, is that I might admire and try to imitate a fat man but not a fat woman. I'm likely to discuss attire and grooming with a fat guy and this adds something new to the friendship, especially with fat guys who are not available, e.g. not gay or already in a relationship.
 
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I’m not attracted to men in the slightest, I’m actually a little revolted sexually at male bodies that aren’t mine.(how I found out I wasn’t bi) that said I understand the appeal of larger men because I like larger women. Some of the same traits on one I would be turned off on in the other. Take bellies for instance. The rounder and bigger a women’s belly is I go crazy. On a guy, I find it wholeheartedly unattractive.
Question, how do you think you would feel/respond to like a picture of a belly by itself, like zoomed in so close you can't see the rest of the person's body or tell what their gender is? Like this?
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Question, how do you think you would feel/respond to like a picture of a belly by itself, like zoomed in so close you can't see the rest of the person's body or tell what their gender is? Like this?
OK. So, you asked someone else that question rather than me but I really want to answer it anyway. On dating sites for fat gay men, there are millions of photos of just bellies. I find none of them interesting or attractive. The reason for this is that I'm attracted to fat men with big bellies rather than disembodied bellies. And they need to have nice personalities, too.

Does anyone else have strong feelings about this?
 
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I’m gonna have to agree with shotha(and yes I see the irony that my avatar is just my belly.). Disembodied bellies aren’t tickling me ether way, I need to see a little more of the body. If I had to choose, I guess the bottom one, it looks like they take care of their skin better.

I guess I could use some work on stating my frame of mind better.
 

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When I saw this thread I thought "what a great topic". Then I saw I'd already responded? Eventually the coffee kicked in and I realized that it is an old tread I'd forgotten about. So for kicks I decided to find my original post and see what I think of it now.

Ten years ago I wrote:
For me fat is good, on anyone. Obviously not everyone (or even mostlyone) like being fat, or are comfortable being fat, and some people's bodies do really seem awkward when fat....but overall I tend to like fat on anyone. Not that fatter is better as some universal guide or anything, just that all else being equal I'm probably going to have a warmer first impression of someone who is at least somewhat fat than of someone who is not.
Oh. Man. Sometimes your opinions really do change! I hate run on sentences these days, and I was in love with them back then.

My opinion on the topic doesn't seem to have changed much though.
 

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"FAs, how do you feel about fat on a pet?"

I'm totally indifferent.
Hm, not really... if I found some cat stuck someplace any cat shall pass unhindered, I should probably call the emergency.
 

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i am not attracted to man and i do not feel attracted to fat men, what i do wonder is the same as with the ladies who are really fat. how much food they regularly eat i mean with really big people it is sometimes amazing the regular amount that they eat and i wonder how is it that they are able to do it on a regular basis while me, i stuff once and feel bloated for a few days and get diahrea etc
 

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what i do wonder is the same as with the ladies who are really fat. how much food they regularly eat
I think that it's simply that some of us have bigger appetites than others. The other thing is that some of us are gainers. Gainers are people who want to be fat and they deliberately put on weight. Just like some men admire the ripped look and go to the gym because they want that look themselves, some of us think that fat guys look good and so we want to be fat too.

I notice that many people in this thread make comments about not being attracted to men, even though the original question asks us about how we feel about "fat on a person of the gender you are not attracted to". One can admire a person's looks without being sexually attracted to them.
 

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Many straight male FAs gush about how fat makes a woman more feminine and hence more attractive to them. Do you feel that fat guys are more feminine as well? If you are going to be attracted to men at all, do you think it is more likely to be a fat guy especially if they have a body type that is close to your female ideal? Do you empathise with them better because you understand what your fat girlfriend or wife goes through and know that fat guys are likely to deal with the same problems?

Or, do you feel that women should be fat but men should be thin/lean/fit/muscular? This is something I have actually seen quite a bit here. I would also like to add that this is not about how you want your own body to look like - it is perfectly reasonable and even common to want to look a certain way but not feel like it is something that is expected, or ideal for your gender.

Other thoughts?
I guess it depends what you mean by "attracted."

I don't feel anything for guys "in that way," fat or not, but with fat guys (especially very fat guys) I do often feel a yearning to look like them. I want what they've got, but it's not the same thing as the attraction I feel for a fat woman. My feelings about what fat does to the male body is that it makes it softer and cuddlier; like a teddy bear. That gives them a softer charm, which is not entirely dissimilar to that which women have, but also isn't exactly feminine. I find I rarely empathize with actual fat people, because a lot of them aren't absolutely thrilled by being fat, and I'm different in that regard. What fat I have, I'm thrilled by. I definitely think that fatter men and women look more delightful because they're fatter.
 
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"FAs, how do you feel about fat on a pet?"
It works better on some kinds of pets than others. In general, I would rather have a fat pet, but on a dog, a reptile, a bird or a fish, it wouldn't make that much of a difference to me. Cats, guinea pigs, hamsters, rabbits and other rhodents all look much better with some extra weight on them, though.
 

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