FFA's: could You See Yourself Dating a Skinny Man?

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Esther

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That does not at all make you a bad person!! Everybody has preferences, and you really can't help that. I understand that dating is not about imagining a "perfect" person and then seeking that person out, shooting everyone down who doesn't fit your requirements - but it's also not about dating people you're completely unattracted to just because you feel bad about those preferences.

And in response to your question - yes, I have dated slim guys, and it was alright. I found I just prefer heavier guys, but I never would have known that if I hadn't dated different types!
 

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I think thin guys can be sexy and good-looking, and I've dated a few in my time--hell, my TV crush is Spike from Buffy, and he's all about the angular--but they're sexy in a different, more generalised way for me than fat guys.

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I have dated thin guys and I have dated heavier guys.

I vastly prefer BHMs. My first really great sexual experience was with a BHM and I guess I was chasing that ever since, until I met my current guy.

Perhaps it was my failing in choosing the wrong type of person, but it just seemed like every skinny guy I was with before was a closet FA. They'd be just fine with us in private, but around other people, they just didn't want to fess up. Then I was with an out and out FA for 7 years (my ex husband), but he was rather controlling and boring at the same time. We just didn't match at all and he was not skinny, but not BHM either.

I have to say following my heart and dating a BHM has made me a much happier lady and welcoming a 3rd into our relationship, a BBW, has made me even more joyful. :wubu:
 

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I think thin guys can be sexy and good-looking, and I've dated a few in my time--hell, my TV crush is Spike from Buffy, and he's all about the angular--but they're sexy in a different, more generalised way for me than fat guys.

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I think they can be insanely sexy. Spike - agreed!

But when I think about me actually being with him in bed, I'll pass. It just doesn't do anything for me.

On another note, I'm finding myself incredibly attracted to a guy that had his stomach stapled. Mind you, he somehow managed to gain back some weight even with his surgery. He's at 260 now.

I *should* be frustrated that he can't eat a lot, but I find his current weight completely attractive. I'm so confused. Generally I'd shoot for over 300, but I can't get this guy out of my mind.

I know he's never going to have abs so perhaps that's a consolation, but I wouldn't even mind it if he dropped some more weight. (Not that I'd encourage it of course!)

Either way, I'm completely boggled by my latest object of every wet dream.
 

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He doesn't have to try I guess. Exceptionally pale, thin, somewhat delicate features, minimal blond soft body hair and shaved everywhere else. I do love androgynous and butch women so its not too much of a stretch. ;D
This makes me want to see pics! :p
 

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I dated both thin and fat guys before meeting my husband, who is fat. There was a point in my life when I finally realized I could never be with a thin man, and I'm glad I never looked back. I figure with how many fat guys are out there, and lack of FFAs, that it would be doing a disservice to myself and to the fat guys out there to not go with my gut (no pun intended) feeling and do what I wanted, which was be with a sexy fat man (done and done!) :)
 

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Honestly, i've dated both and I have absolutely adored both. It's always been what I wanted in a man and who he was rather than what he looked like. I've dated two huge men and one was a jerk while the other I thought was the love of my life. I've dated many single men and one of them I thought was intensely passionate (but all the ladies know how that goes). Right now I'm with my favorite guy that, although isn't jiggly or has a huge ass or large belly...... sorry, got lost on a tangent, he fullfills me in the way he simply cares so much and he loves me so much. So yeah, I'm a screaming FFA and I'm into ssbhms, but my guy loves me entirely and we click. I can give up my preferences if he makes me so happy.


.....that doesn't mean i can't look or flirt :eat2::eat2:
 

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On a side note, am I the only one who imagines fake boyfriends? XD
Oh, definitely not. I love playing with the "what if..." buttons. ~~what if he was 6'4", and dark haired, with soulful eyes and a utility belt? :smitten:

Really, I don't believe myself when I say I'll only date someone with x trait. Of the boys I've seriously dated, none of them (granted all 2) have fit any template. I've certainly grown from knowing the people around me, especially ones that I wouldn't have thought to get to know better.

There is a caveat: if someone dates me, chances are they won't be skinny for the duration of the relationship. I bake way too much for my primary taste tester to have a 30" waist. :eat2:
 
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i have dated many shapes, sizes, and body fat percentages, but i go gaga over the really big ones...:eat2::eat1:
 

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Personally, I wouldn't want a thin guy. It may sound shallow but hey, most people won't date someone who is overweight and that's shallow too lol

I am okay with "football player" type of guys, not skinny though.

200 lbs and over should be good, depending on their height. (for example, I'll take a 180 lbs guy but then he should be under 5'9).

No 6 ft, 150 lbs guys. That's unacceptable LOL :p
 

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I've dated guys of all body types literally haha. My first boyfriend was 6'2" and only 120 lbs (no he wasn't anorexic, he had a genetic condition that made him that thin- Marfan's syndrome)...who woulda thunk that I would end up years later with a guy the same height, and 300 lbs!

And yes, I definitely prefer bigger ^_^. Although there are guys I absolutely adore who are thinner (Christian Bale for instance). It kind of depends you know :)
 

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I have my deviations, and have slept with thinner men.

However, I usually keep the whole thin boy thin a fantasy, because they'll never be as good in real life as sex with a BHM.

Which totally makes me shallow, but Im far from caring...
 

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As a fat man, ladies I thank you for being loyal to the cause ;)
 

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Were I single, I would probably only want to get into a relationship with a (very) fat man. It's just how I roll ... :D
 

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I've understood that I was passionately attracted to fat men since I was 15 or 16, but it didn't stop me from dating thin ones, and I eventually married one.

I'm still over the moon for fat guys (and as I have an open marriage, I sometimes have the opportunity to enjoy them up close...), but at least in a life partner, I am more interested in brains and values.
 

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i have dated thin guys, but i'm just really not sexually attracted to thin guys in general...
 

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I've always thought there had to be something like the Kinsey Continuum for FAs.

Kinsey rated homo/heterosexuality on a scale of 1 to 7; there are some pure homosexuals who will simply never be aroused by the opposite gender, and some pure heterosexuals. However between those 2 polar opposites is a range of sexuality. Some may strongly prefer one gender but be able to be aroused by another.

I think it's the same with FAs. Some (like Mary) will only be able to be aroused by a fat guy, while others (like me) have a preference for them but am able to be sexually aroused by thin men as well.
 
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