My Fat Attraction!!!

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  1. Jun 9, 2018 #1

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    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from a problem from my childhood!!!

    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from my own fatness!!!

    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from my own self-loathing!!!

    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from my own self-esteem!!!

    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from an experience of rejection!!!

    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from a fetish!!!

    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from an abusive attitude!!!

    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from a desire to brag about my manhood!!!

    My Fat Attraction doesn't came from a want to take advantage of anyone!!!

    My Fat Attraction came from an attraction to a big body with a big mind, a big personality, a big heart, a big soul, and a big spirit!!!

     
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    My Fat Attraction DOES come from problems from my family of origin!!!

    My Fat Attraction DOES come from my own fatness!!!

    My Fat Attraction DOES came from a fetish!!!
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    other than that i agree w all of the above
     
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    My Fat Attraction DOES came from a fetish!!!

    All the other points, I agree with Colonial Warrior.
     
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    My Fat Attraction actually doesn't come from any of the above!!!

    My Fat Attraction comes partly from fatter people being nicer to look at!!!

    My Fat Attraction also comes partly from the comfort of touching a fatter person!!!

    My Fat Attraction is also from the round shape being the most perfect in nature!!! (Why else would almost every major astral body take it?)
     
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  5. Jul 26, 2018 #5

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    sorry for the long post, I'm currently waiting another 8-10 weeks to start cbt so I fear I must subject you to my inner meanderings:

    Until recently I thought my fat attraction grew from a boob fetish, when I was young before we had internet I used to draw my own porn material, I think one of the first ones I drew was of Lara croft, I remember my dad being seemingly proud of me after he found them, then I started to notice the other sexy jiggly parts, I had fantasies of being smothered in breasts, bellies, thighs and buttocks, I can't remember if he found those pictures I think my brother might have shown them to him, anyway when eventually we did get the internet I would sneak down to the computer at night and eventually I got caught, I remember my Dad being very disappointed. I thought he was mad because I wasn't looking at conventional porn, I told him about this years later but he didn't remember.
    I knew it wasn't cool to like fat women at school but some girls were the exception (usually the ones with the most developed breasts)
    I was always scared about "coming out" to my friends, they weren't very fatphobic but every now and then there would be a joke at the expense of a fat person, and I would bite my tongue or pretend not to hear.
    I was scared if I dated a fat girl then I would loose my precious friends, it was silly but I never felt comfortable speaking about it with anyone until I was about 18-19.
    All my friends were supportive, they knew pretty much anyway.

    Now I think my fat attraction might have come from my own body shame, being fat and feminine was everything I was bullied about or told not to be, I think this shame became associated with the pleasure I felt at touching myself and then the shame of release, I think wanted to be with someone I wasn't allowed to be myself, they would be the yin to my yang.
    Now I'm engaged to my beautiful fat fiancé and I love her body, mind and spirit more than I dreamed I ever could, it is she who is helping me discover this side of myself that I'd been so scared of, I am a long way from being whole again but I think it's going to be a fun journey.

    Now my fat attraction is just part of my daily life, at one point it was my whole identity when I was a very desperate lonely man who only saw fat women as potential partners and everyone else as potential friends or rivals. I was so scared of loosing an opportunity for love and lust I shut down or got verbal diarrhea when I was gifted the chance to speak to a lovely larger lady. Now I still see sexy women but that's almost the same as seeing what colour hair they have, I think they are objectively beautiful. Now I'm closer to seeing the beauty in everyone, my favourite thing is to get someone to talk about the subject that sets their eyes on fire, what their real passion is.

    sorry for the long post I had a lot to say :D
     
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    Don't worry, friend!!! I will read it later. I thank you for your post!!!
     
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    my fat attraction... is just a preference. as some people prefer blonds or brunettes, blue or brown eyes, pears or apples, i prefer fat woman. i don't think there is much more to say at this point
     
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    That's the spirit of what I'm trying to tell. Thank you for your opinion!!!
     
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    I have always preferred fat ladies to thin. As far back as I can remember. Just how I am wired. Not a fetish. A preference. No difference in that preference than if I preferred thin women
     
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    Just like I realized long time ago!!!
     
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    I think we have similar FA stories!!!
     
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    My fat attraction is something I like about myself.

    My fat attraction is hardwired into my brain -- almost like stark food preferences / aversions, learning aptitudes / difficulties, natural partiality / aversion to certain personality types.

    It isn't really subject to change.

    By all means, call it a fetish. I don’t personally care what you label it, as long as the nature of it is understood and graciously accepted.

    This isn't the case for all FAs, but my fat attraction is exclusive.

    It spans over a range from "kind of chubby" to "pretty big." The strength of this attraction depends on my love of the whole person and not just on the extent of their fatness.

    My fat attraction will never be allowed to win out at the total expense of someone's health.

    I enjoy being lovingly teased about my fat attraction by friends who are genuinely cool with it.

    I know of several people outside of communities like Dims who share this attraction. They're just not generally as open about it.

    To me, fat is comforting, exhilarating, meditative and hot -- at different times or all at once.

    My fat attraction is fun, subversive and life-affirming.

    My fat attraction is as romantic in nature as it is sexual.
     
  13. Oct 9, 2018 #13

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    I strongly agree with you in all those points, specially in the one related with health!!!
     
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    I understand them. We live in a judgemental society that tries to make us think that attraction to fat people is something insane. And it is time for us to speak out to make a change on that!!!
     
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    This is very close to my own views, with the following clarifications/differences...

    #4 - I do feel unpleasant when people use words to mean something they don't mean, no matter what the context.
    #6 - My range is a bit bigger than this.
    #9 - I don't know anyone like this outside of the internet.
    #12 - To me, it's more purely aesthetic than romantic or sexual.

    Aside from that, 100% agreement.
     
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    I agree. I don’t have a problem with fetishes and I do think for some a fat attraction can be considered a fetish. But grouping all who prefer fat partners as having a fetish is patently wrong because it is legitimately a natural attraction and preference for many of us.
     
  17. Oct 10, 2018 at 7:34 PM #17

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    You're 100% right, @happily_married. That is what I'm trying to tell with this. Thank you so much!!!
     
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    Been pondering posting in this thread for a while, so here it goes! I'll answer in the format of the original post.

    My Fat Attraction doesn't come from a problem from my childhood that I am aware of.

    My Fat Attraction partially came from my own fatness.

    My Fat Attraction doesn't come from my own self-loathing.

    My Fat Attraction doesn't come from my own self-esteem.

    My Fat Attraction doesn't come from an experience of rejection. I believe it comes from experience of acceptance experimenting in trying new things.

    My Fat Attraction might have started as a fetish in the beginning, but has evolved over the years into a full-blown preference.

    My Fat Attraction doesn't come from an abusive attitude.

    My Fat Attraction doesn't come from a want to take advantage of anyone.

    My Fat Attraction came later in life and I totally embrace it! My only regret is that I didn't discover it sooner! :D
     
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    Amy Jo, just wanted to say that I thought all of your comments were well stated and thoughtful. They also just seem so nice!
     
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    Thank you so much! It feels good to be able to put my feelings out there in a place where I know they will be understood and appreciated, by most at least :)
     
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