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Good feedback JB. I choose to agree and disagree with some of your points, but they are all respected.

Krismiss, the reason the conversation was started was because a BBW (CC) asked to hear from BHM on the topic. She wanted to hear, whether it was good, bad or indifferent.

Further more, no group ever got what they wanted for their advancement by sitting on the sidelines and being quiet. The fact that in your opinion, this is the same old argument that BHM dont get the respect they deserve on the boards, means there has been little to no advancement in this area according to the BHM who choose Dimensions as a place to be communal.

Why should we be quiet about that???
 

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Hi Surly

I see some BHM out on the Main Board and I do not feel that anyone should be judged just because they do not post on the BHM/FFA Board or the Main Board.

What gets me is that there are BBWs on Dimensions who I do not think I have ever seen use the words "Fat Men" or BHM in a post. I am not talking about posting to show an attraction, but you would think that once in a while they would mention Fat Men as support for fellow Fat People.

I can not imagine talking about Fat Issues and Problems and never mentioning Fat Women.

William



And i've tried to encourage more BHM to post outside of the BHM/FFA board on a CONSISTENT basis. It goes both ways.
 

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Good feedback JB. I choose to agree and disagree with some of your points, but they are all respected.

Krismiss, the reason the conversation was started was because a BBW (CC) asked to hear from BHM on the topic. She wanted to hear, whether it was good, bad or indifferent.

Further more, no group ever got what they wanted for their advancement by sitting on the sidelines and being quiet. The fact that in your opinion, this is the same old argument that BHM dont get the respect they deserve on the boards, means there has been little to no advancement in this area according to the BHM who choose Dimensions as a place to be communal.

Why should we be quiet about that???
STEP OFF ME.

Can you please, please, PLEASE provide me with examples of bbw's deliberately putting a BHM down? Can you? And if you do dig something up that you think does that, can you please look at who is saying it, and tell me if they're actually a worthwhile human being? No. They're probably just some idiot who nobody thinks anything of anyway.
People will like what they like. End of story. We've had this SAME ARGUMENT with BHM not liking bigger women. It's all the same story. You like what you like, there are bhm/bbw couples, there are bbw/average size couples there are bhm/average size couples. That's it! You're attracted to what you're attracted to, and I think the whole POINT of this site is that it's here to tell you it's OK.

The argument we keep having is pointless because no matter what you do, people are still going to be physically attracted to whatever their brains are hardwired for them to be physically attracted to, and that's the way it should be.

So, if you'd like to talk about advancements that need to be made, how about you state what they are first, and how YOU think we can fix them.
 

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Funny, I'm a proud type of person....who firmly believes that if someone doesn't find me attractive, then it's time to move on. I don't attempt to "talk people into" finding me attractive. That's insane and just plain silly at best.

KrisMiss is also right about it being, on some level, insulting to the BBW that came into this thread to say they like BHMs and it turned into a discussion of how/why BBW don't like fat men. WTF?
As in the women that posted aren't good enough?
 

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Well in most cases if a BBW is here and representing then the comment does not apply to her and the fact that so many BBWs stay as far away from here as possible makes the BBWs who are here even more special.

William


Funny, I'm a proud type of person....who firmly believes that if someone doesn't find me attractive, then it's time to move on. I don't attempt to "talk people into" finding me attractive. That's insane and just plain silly at best.

KrisMiss is also right about it being, on some level, insulting to the BBW that came into this thread to say they like BHMs and it turned into a discussion of how/why BBW don't like fat men. WTF?
As in the women that posted aren't good enough?
 

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I see some BHM out on the Main Board and I do not feel that anyone should be judged just because they do not post on the BHM/FFA Board or the Main Board.

What gets me is that there are BBWs on Dimensions who I do not think I have ever seen use the words "Fat Men" or BHM in a post. I am not talking about posting to show an attraction, but you would think that once in a while they would mention Fat Men as support for fellow Fat People.

I can not imagine talking about Fat Issues and Problems and never mentioning Fat Women.
Um...have I missed the part where people are being judged for just posting on a particular board or two? If that's been happening, them I'm pretty screwed. But I think the point is that if fat guys want to be more noticed, then they maaaay have to move away from one particular board and branch out into the wider site.

Also, I am fat. Hooray, yippee! I don't feel the need to mention fat women in every post. In fact, my posts probably mention fat guys more than fat women. Just because someone doesn't mention one particular group all the time doesn't mean that they don't support them.
 

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Funny, I'm a proud type of person....who firmly believes that if someone doesn't find me attractive, then it's time to move on. I don't attempt to "talk people into" finding me attractive. That's insane and just plain silly at best.

KrisMiss is also right about it being, on some level, insulting to the BBW that came into this thread to say they like BHMs and it turned into a discussion of how/why BBW don't like fat men. WTF?
As in the women that posted aren't good enough?
This, too.
 

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If you go back thru the post, you will find that a BBW made the point about there not being that many BBW's who are into BHM. She also went as far to ask us BHM what we thought about that. We (BHM) go on and answer her question & then proceed to get rail roaded for how we feel... Sounds about right...

The point that I was trying to make was the irony that there are very few BBW's who find BHM attractive on the boards. And I never said that posters were mean about stating that they only like "skinny, athletic" types. But some BHM who are on the boards looking for a community of acceptance of their size, would take that as possibly being hurtful.

I never said that people should be forced to date somebody that they didn't find attractive. I could never date a woman with bad skin, that is my thing. There is nothing anybody could do to change that. That is how I am built.

But I also wouldn't go on a board for acceptance of people with bad skin & state that I only date people with clear skin. Again, just the way im built.

The debate has grown tiresome & I will just agree to disagree.
 

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Hi

I am not talking BBWs who mention BBWs more than BHMs, some of them have never used the BHM without it being part of BBW/BHM.

I do not judge people by where they post until they say something off color and then once you click and view their posting history it all makes sense. It rarely fails.

William


Um...have I missed the part where people are being judged for just posting on a particular board or two? If that's been happening, them I'm pretty screwed. But I think the point is that if fat guys want to be more noticed, then they maaaay have to move away from one particular board and branch out into the wider site.

Also, I am fat. Hooray, yippee! I don't feel the need to mention fat women in every post. In fact, my posts probably mention fat guys more than fat women. Just because someone doesn't mention one particular group all the time doesn't mean that they don't support them.
 

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This forum is about fat people and their Admirers/supporters......not a site where the criteria is you can only screw fat people.

Saying that it's insulting to you, as a fat person, that someone on the boards bangs thin people is quite reaching, IMO. I'm a fat person....I don't care if you bang the skinnies. Your sex life is really none of my business if you don't care to disclose it. Everyone else gets that same consideration......and should get it free from judgment.

I'm saying that as a fat person....who doesn't judge people upon their sexual preferences (long as it's legal anyway). I don't think any man "is out to get me" if he has sex with a thin woman. No man here owes me his sexual attentions....and no woman here owes any man hers.

We are adults....let's act like it. Life.....it's just what it is sometimes......
 

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BBW FFA right here.

...wow, that comment seems pretty weak after the above discussion.
 

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My experiences have been that fat men can be adamantly against being involved with fat women for some of the same reasons you mentioned above. It's something I've always assumed which has made me timid about approaching fat men or paying compliments. I've found in the past that doing so often made a few of them uncomfortable.
Its interesting (not in a good way, I suppose) because it is all based on our own personal perceptions. Maybe that is the whole problem is that our own expectations seem to defeat us. Of course, as others have stated, there are those that simply have preferences. Right, wrong or indifferent, we're hardwired by evolution to be attracted to certain people. As much as we may deny it, we're still not much removed from our primate cousins and the rest of the animal kingdom in that our selection of a mate is based on whatever relative criteria we deem attractive.

At least on the surface (and here I'm refering to the internet in general, not Dimensions specifically) there just isn't much in the way of BHM....acceptance doesnt seem to be the right word. Again, its relative I suppose. Naturally, being the devoted perv I am, I note there is an extreme dearth of straight BHM-based adult content, even among amateurs. The gay adult community seems to love us and I have seen a few movies out there with BBWs and BHMs as well as 1 or 2 BHMs with thin FFAs (the rarest of all).

For my part, I love women of all shapes. However, I have a soft spot for soft girls. They are very snuggly. I was lucky enough to spend some quality time with a young BBW Friday evening. It felt great cause it was like I was robbing the cradle cause she is 23 and I'm nearly 37. :eek::happy: I would gladly spend an evening with any of the BBWs that have posted here if for no other reason that sheer appreciation (sure, that makes me sound like a shallow douche that wants to just get his rocks off....but I mean it with the best of intentions). ;) I'd do it even if it was only cuddling and smooching allowed. :D
 

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This forum is about fat people and their Admirers/supporters......not a site where the criteria is you can only screw fat people.

Saying that it's insulting to you, as a fat person, that someone on the boards bangs thin people is quite reaching, IMO. I'm a fat person....I don't care if you bang the skinnies. Your sex life is really none of my business if you don't care to disclose it. Everyone else gets that same consideration......and should get it free from judgment.

I'm saying that as a fat person....who doesn't judge people upon their sexual preferences (long as it's legal anyway). I don't think any man "is out to get me" if he has sex with a thin woman. No man here owes me his sexual attentions....and no woman here owes any man hers.

We are adults....let's act like it. Life.....it's just what it is sometimes......
LOL Really, I read your whole post GEF...but, OMG "bang the skinnies" I love you :D
 

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Yes, that's it. Most people have no prefference one way or the other so very few will label themselves as ffa.
Exactly. While I have my moments where I see a hot bhm and get all gooey, I don't date BHM exclusively, so I wouldn't consider myself a full on FFA. Plus there's the wonder if that hot BHM is into fat chicks. They aren't always, which is fine. Everybody likes what they like.
 

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I don't date BHM exclusively, so I wouldn't consider myself a full on FFA.
See, now there is a difference again in perception. At least to my mind, any woman that would actually even be with a fat guy should be considered an FFA, even if she doesn't only go for chubbies. As strange as it sounds, I don't think the reverse is necessarily true (that a guy who will be with a chubby woman would be an FA) cause, well, there is some truth to the charge that guys are dawgs who will sleep with anyone. Believe me, I know that sound totally weird and I'm trying hard to break the last of that ridiculous Victorian morality that got instilled in me because of our culture which makes automatically put women on a pedestal (the idea that women are pure and men have our minds constantly in the gutter). :D
 

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If you go back thru the post, you will find that a BBW made the point about there not being that many BBW's who are into BHM. She also went as far to ask us BHM what we thought about that. We (BHM) go on and answer her question & then proceed to get rail roaded for how we feel... Sounds about right...

The point that I was trying to make was the irony that there are very few BBW's who find BHM attractive on the boards. And I never said that posters were mean about stating that they only like "skinny, athletic" types. But some BHM who are on the boards looking for a community of acceptance of their size, would take that as possibly being hurtful.

I never said that people should be forced to date somebody that they didn't find attractive. I could never date a woman with bad skin, that is my thing. There is nothing anybody could do to change that. That is how I am built.

But I also wouldn't go on a board for acceptance of people with bad skin & state that I only date people with clear skin. Again, just the way im built.

The debate has grown tiresome & I will just agree to disagree.
You're right, this debate has grown tiresome, and as some other bbws have pointed out this argument goes the same way. I dated a BHM who decided in the end he didn't want to be seen with a bbw. That didn't end well. As one fat person to others, ya'll need to get over it, the same way I did. Sounds harsh, but take it as practical advice from someone who's been in that place. It used to piss me off that fat guys wouldn't ever dream of dating a bbw, but such is life and in the end it doesn't matter because none of us can change other people's sexual preferences. It just is the way is. We like what we like.


....At least on the surface (and here I'm refering to the internet in general, not Dimensions specifically) there just isn't much in the way of BHM....acceptance doesnt seem to be the right word. Again, its relative I suppose. Naturally, being the devoted perv I am, I note there is an extreme dearth of straight BHM-based adult content, even among amateurs. The gay adult community seems to love us and I have seen a few movies out there with BBWs and BHMs as well as 1 or 2 BHMs with thin FFAs (the rarest of all). ...
Remember, porn is usually made for men, not women. If there's a dearth of straight BHM porn it's cause men aren't making it. And would any straight BHM be willing to participate? This may be a topic for another thread.
 

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Remember, porn is usually made for men, not women. If there's a dearth of straight BHM porn it's cause men aren't making it. And would any straight BHM be willing to participate? This may be a topic for another thread.
I think I already addressed this. I'll just say, no footage has been released at this point. There have been many talks about me doing a pay site or selling the footage to other distributes. PM me if your to afraid to post that you would actually like to see it and would be willing to pay to see it. Also post/PM suggestions of things you would like to see, squishing, positions, stories, or are we just going for strait up hard core porn? What is the paying female public wanting to see?
 

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I think I already addressed this. I'll just say, no footage has been released at this point. There have been many talks about me doing a pay site or selling the footage to other distributes. PM me if your to afraid to post that you would actually like to see it and would be willing to pay to see it. Also post/PM suggestions of things you would like to see, squishing, positions, stories, or are we just going for strait up hard core porn? What is the paying female public wanting to see?
I for one would LOVE to see your sexual gymnastics of the hard core variety (is there any other?), and I would pay for the privilege. I think you might already have a good idea of what I want to see. ;)
 

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Remember, porn is usually made for men, not women. If there's a dearth of straight BHM porn it's cause men aren't making it.
I think, at least as far as 'professional' porn is concerned, the industry as a general rule isn't interested in having fat guys as performers. I think its kind of sad (at least from my perspective) that 'we' (the collective fat guy 'we') aren't considered worth as a subculture other than among the gay porn industry. They say there is a fetish for everybody, except straight BHMs.

I guess it sounds odd, but I want to see 'professional' straight porn with big guys because I can sort of project. I'll be honest, when I see a vid with an absolutely luscious BBW and she's nailing an athletic dude, it pisses me off cause I'm envious of that guy (I can't really project and say 'Yea, I could be with her'). Yes, I know I probably need mental counseling for having admitted this. :eek::D:happy:

And would any straight BHM be willing to participate? This may be a topic for another thread.
I would happily volunteer, even if it was only for amateur porn. :D
 
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