I might develop those tendencies as well. A couple of weeks ago, I might have cleared the table immediately after dinner in order to help her manage her weight. Or I might have intervened if I knew she was full but kept eating. Just recently, I noticed that she tends to eat more if I put bigger plates on the table and I got aroused when she kept eating although I knew she was full. Now I put those plates on the table every day and I don’t clear the table before she stops eating. Well so far, this can’t be called “feeding” and what I like about just letting it happen, is the playfulness. Probably she gains even more that way. In some months, we’re looking at 11 lbs of weight gain with 80-90 % of it being pure fat mass - without active feeding which is not bad, isn’t it?I've embraced the fact that I do have a feeder side.
For years I was hesitant. I always felt it was a solely admirer-focused fetish. I'm still sick of people pushing others into it without their consent too. Especially new people in the community. But now that I know a small percentage of feedees truly enjoy it, and fetishes in general are often collaborative: I've become open to the experience. I'm getting to know someone who's interested in starting this type of relationship with me. I just started helping her, and we're both very happy to see where it goes. It's basically my first jump outside of being vanilla AF.
I do think I approach it differently than a lot of people though. I only apply pressure on people that want me to do it. The idea of someone doing it for me doesn't have that much appeal. Still more driven by results than the process. I've learned that my range of preferences is larger as well, but now I have a clear limit. Starting to think I fall somewhere in between being an FA and Feeder. Either way I hope I become a great chameleon.