Fuck me huh? Well, considering how good in bed I am and how weird your mentality is, that could potentially help you with a lot of your problems I’m not into mercy fucks tho.@Anjula From the bottom of my heart, fuck you! I figured if there was ONE place on the internet where I could mention my weight and not be shamed with "just lose the weight, you're a young guy so it's easy," it would be here. Well you know what, a few years ago I DID lose the weight. I hated every single second of it because I had to constantly monitor and berate myself to keep from eating anything enjoyable and after every workout I would feel so depressed for hours I was borderline suicidal, but yeah, it was definitely "easy". Got down to 190 and you wanna know something? I STILL LOOKED FAT!!!!!! My measurements did not change, my photos did not change, literally no one who didn't already know I was trying to lose weight and therefore had confirmation bias could tell the difference! I may have not been obese according to BMI at that time but as far as everyone else was concerned I still was because I still looked fat. But I guess I should have just stuck with it because clearly it must have been my fault since it is such an "easy fix", the great Anjula said so. Sincerely, fuck you and the judgmental horse you rode in on!
Jokes aside. Dude...
Dims is a wonderful place, we are anything but fat phobic here, no one is blaming your extra weight for your problems (well...you are and this is why I suggested losing it).
Loosing weight and staying skinny is too hard? No fucking shit. I’ve been overweight most of my life, I’ve battled bulimia and body issues for years. I work out 4/5 times a week, I’m a vegan and while I enjoy pretty much everything in moderation these days, If I go crazy on food and drinks I will gain weight. Easily. Do you think most slim people have bomb metabolisms and eat whatever the fuck they want? No sugar, we WORK for it. That’s what life is about. You want something you go after it.
Loosing fat is easier than battling depressions, that’s a fact. So that is, probably, why the therapist told you to do just that. There is no magic pill, no magic person, no fairy dust that’s going to fix you. Only you can fix yourself and a good place to start is the gym. Quoting some movie I don’t remember the title of: „exercise produce endorphins, endorphins make you happy(...)”I struggle with low self-esteem and depression. It is not severe enough to ever affect my ability to function on a daily basis, but it is almost always present in the back of my mind.
Also...depression? anxiety? They’re my middle names. I’ve been diagnosed with more mental illness than you can imagine when I was 15. I’ve spend 6months in bed because of the crazy state of my depression, I had a psychiatrist tell me I need to be hospitalized because I’m in such a bad mental state, I’ve been told by other he’s never seen anyone talk about ending their life witth such a bigg smile. I failed university because of mental illnesses, I’ve lost people I cared about, I’ve been through hell. There was a time when my diet consisted of Xanax and more Xanax. Yet here I am, mostly nice human with flourishing social life, a degree and a great job. My secret? I tried (and worked) hard on myself and I (almost) never blamed my ilnesses for my failures.
^I mentioned the above because I’m sick and tired of people using mental illnesses as shields. Yeah, we are sick but it’s OUR job to fix ourselves. Sadly nobody can do it for us...and bitching about it is not gonna help.
You’re 25, it’s your life, take responsibility for it instead of blaming depression, weight and lack of “love” for the shitty state of it. Nobody wants to date a charity case.
oh boy... you have all the rights to hate your body but you can't blame your weight for being undesirable yet do nothing to change it. That's plain stupidity. Also do you think finding a girlfriend is going to change YOUR perception of yourself? As I've said in my first post, I can't believe you're real. Your logic is so flawn I am honestly thinking you're a troll.she said,
How am I supposed to take that except "You have no right to not like your body because you can just choose to not be fat anymore, it's easy!" Throwing in as an afterthought that the weight isn't the real issue doesn't negate her dismissing all my concerns as being up to a deliberate choice to be fat, like everyone else on the internet. And you think I don't know that? I know having a girlfriend won't magically make my depression go away, but it will help me get past the biggest mental block to improving, that I am undesirable and therefore can never find love. Besides, what's the alternative, not want to find love at all, lie to myself and say it doesn't matter to me in the slightest?
You want to force yourself to like a fat girl in order to get a girlfriend who is magically gonna make you feel better about yourself while you actually hate fat bodies, don't find them desirable and think that fat girls like fat guys because they have low standards. Her feelings aside, how are you gonna feel any better knowing (thinking) she's with you because she can't do any better?
PS. Don’t go knocking on bdsm/poly community doors, we will eat you alive... I'm considered nice in there