What does DIMs and the BHM/FFA Board Mean to you?

[RVGleason]

Oh my this is so cute!!! He’s so pleasantly round!

Just so there's no confusion, FFA Artist on DeviantArt did the artwork.

Link: https://www.deviantart.com/ffa/art/WalterIvyDoodles-99047249

 

[Colonial Warrior]

For me, this is one of few places on Earth where I can feel myself. It is helping me to regain the joy of living and the wish to love someone. Something I have lost years ago.

As I get older, I feel the world is changing too fast and almost everything and everyone are fading away from me like tears in a rain.

 

[Anjula]

DIMS means a lot to me. It's been six long years during which I grew from silly teen into slightly less silly woman. I met great people on this board, had my first online crush( thanks to that guy I've tried amurican candy! ). To be honest this place pretty much shaped me. Six years ago there was only one fat guy in my school (so basically in my life, seriously I had profiles on like all dating sites and there was no one, nobody knew anyone fat, I couldnt find anyone anywhere ) and I was a complete newbie FFA. Through this placed I've learned what I like and that I'm not alone. I had "in her chair" printed and I was reading it before sleep. Im pretty sure I've cried because it was so perfect and then I saw the rest of the stories and I was doomed. I felt like I more or less belong somewhere.

I'm also 99% sure that my English sounds like it does because of DIMS. I'm able to communicate without any problems and understan majority of people thanks to this place and the countless hours I spent skyping with some of you. When I joined DIMS I couldn't understand at least half of what you've talked about, but I was trying my bests. I had dictionaries opened 24/7. I was still too afraid of posting on majority of threads tho(TO BE PERFECTLY HONEST I STILL AM LOL ) I'm sorry if I ever sounded weird or whatever, I never meant to I just either couldn't understand you or was to afraid to answer because I worried its gonna be wrong. I still feel like some of you don't like me because I gave the wrong impression at first.

To wrap it up, DIMS is the best online thing that has ever happened to me and I'm so grateful for this experience. I hope I will make even more friends and that I will stay here as long as it's up (so hopefully forever).

Ps. Sorry for any language mistakes I'm just polish and I don't have any dictionarys at hand 😉

Ps2. Love you all

Holy shit it’s been 10 years! Still the best online thing that has happened to me and it’s amazing I’m still deeply in love with some of you (Darien I’m talking about you my love) and Laura is one of my best friends ever. This place is a fucking blessing my dudes.

 

[JackCivelli]

I’m pretty new to this site, but I’ve been in the feederism community since the ‘90s, and I gotta say, there’s a relaxed quality here that seems to be fairly unique to dims. Feabie and Fantasy Feeder, Fetlife, StufferDb, and the like are so hyper sexualized. Not that I don’t enjoy the sexual aspects of feederism. I mean, it IS a kink after all. But I get tired of every interaction being the conversational equivalent of getting grinded on in the club. And if it’s not that, it’s about aggressively searching for a feeder/feedee, so much so that a casual glance at the news feed on Feabie or the General chat on ff and you’re guaranteed to see someone post two words “FEED ME”.
Like, what does posting that even do for you? Do feeders actually respond to that? Do they actually dm you like “ok, since you said so...” Does just speaking that phrase into the ether somehow make it more likely that one will materialize for you?

but I digress...


in the era before the hyper sexualized feederism communities took over, in the days of StuffedOnline and the early days of deviantart, people barely interacted with each other, and when they did, it was very male dominated and awkward.

of the sites I’ve been to, dims is such a breath of fresh air. You can just relax and be yourself, and be open and honest about what you like. I love that there is a place that I can go where there are women who are attracted to my body type, and we can chat like normal people, instead of getting called “piggy” and trading nudes within 5 minutes of meeting someone. ( not that that isn’t fun too, but shit, like, let’s get to know each other as little first...)

...or having to pay someone for them to be interested in interacting with me...

everyone seems so real and genuine here, and I love that!

 

[Tad]

Jack, I think Dimensions always avoided the hyper-sexualized nature of some of the other sites, but I'd say the relaxed came about in part because eventually it crashed pretty hard, most users moving elsewhere (either to facebook groups with people they already knew, or to more sexual sites). Those who hung around, or have wandered in since and stayed, seem to mostly be the ones who like this atmosphere, I guess?

 

[Anjula]

I’m pretty new to this site, but I’ve been in the feederism community since the ‘90s, and I gotta say, there’s a relaxed quality here that seems to be fairly unique to dims. Feabie and Fantasy Feeder, Fetlife, StufferDb, and the like are so hyper sexualized. Not that I don’t enjoy the sexual aspects of feederism. I mean, it IS a kink after all. But I get tired of every interaction being the conversational equivalent of getting grinded on in the club. And if it’s not that, it’s about aggressively searching for a feeder/feedee, so much so that a casual glance at the news feed on Feabie or the General chat on ff and you’re guaranteed to see someone post two words “FEED ME”.
Like, what does posting that even do for you? Do feeders actually respond to that? Do they actually dm you like “ok, since you said so...” Does just speaking that phrase into the ether somehow make it more likely that one will materialize for you?

but I digress...


in the era before the hyper sexualized feederism communities took over, in the days of StuffedOnline and the early days of deviantart, people barely interacted with each other, and when they did, it was very male dominated and awkward.

of the sites I’ve been to, dims is such a breath of fresh air. You can just relax and be yourself, and be open and honest about what you like. I love that there is a place that I can go where there are women who are attracted to my body type, and we can chat like normal people, instead of getting called “piggy” and trading nudes within 5 minutes of meeting someone. ( not that that isn’t fun too, but shit, like, let’s get to know each other as little first...)

...or having to pay someone for them to be interested in interacting with me...

everyone seems so real and genuine here, and I love that!

FetLife tho

 

[AmyJo1976]

I can't say that I've tried out any of the other sites. This forum is where I first about this community and just kind of stuck with it. It's different from the others like all the above have stated. More laid back is a good description. You can talk about things non-sexual related, but still be in the comfort of people that feel the same way as you or have you're same preferences and if you want sexual, it's here. I just feel like the more the world changes or I change, I still have this place where I can express myself to people that understand. As far as this FFA board goes, a shout out to all my sister FFA's! fat men make the world go around for us!

 

[Colonial Warrior]

I can't say that I've tried out any of the other sites. This forum is where I first about this community and just kind of stuck with it. It's different from the others like all the above have stated. More laid back is a good description. You can talk about things non-sexual related, but still be in the comfort of people that feel the same way as you or have you're same preferences and if you want sexual, it's here. I just feel like the more the world changes or I change, I still have this place where I can express myself to people that understand. As far as this FFA board goes, a shout out to all my sister FFA's! fat men make the world go around for us!

Agree with you, @AmyJo1976!

Since I have learned about the FA movement, I have been in many groups related to the BBW/SSBBW/BHM/FA/FFA at Myspace, Hi5 (when it was a social network), and Facebook. And believe me, Dims is the most clean and decent place I have been!

Here we can share more than our attraction to large people. And when we do so, we have done it with respect. I love to be here!

 

[littlefairywren]

I'm seconding you @AmyJo1976! Everything you said is how I feel, particularly about the laid back feel.

I don't feel like an anomaly here. Outside, in the real world I do. I can "smile" at people here and not be frowned at or God forbid, have some fool of a man think that some short, fat woman is coming on to them because she must be desperate. I smile at people outside, can't help myself, so reactions tend to be very mixed. This place makes me calm.

 

[AmyJo1976]

I'm seconding you @AmyJo1976! Everything you said is how I feel, particularly about the laid back feel.

I don't feel like an anomaly here. Outside, in the real world I do. I can "smile" at people here and not be frowned at or God forbid, have some fool of a man think that some short, fat woman is coming on to them because she must be desperate. I smile at people outside, can't help myself, so reactions tend to be very mixed. This place makes me calm.

Yes I know what you mean @littlefairywren! Dims has become more and more my safe space where I feel comfortable opening up and being myself as I feel like I've moved further and further away from societies norms. I'm pretty open to the people I know about my preferences and likes for the most part now, but there are still some things that are better kept here in the forums lol! It makes me smile when I see a good convo pop up that I want to get involved in

 

[Tad]

One thing that I really appreciate about Dimensions is the length/duration/continuity of discussions. Look how far back certain threads run!

This seems to be out of fashion in the web in general. A lot of social media runs on the facebood or twitter type model of of most recent postings and the responses to them, so discussions are usually moved on from in a day (and are available only to your followers unless you have formed a group). Even on Reddit older discussions get locked after a while (couple of months? Not quite sure). There is certainly a place for the 'newspaper' life of always looking at the latest stories, but I'm glad that the fatosphere also has a place like this where discussions and collections of thoughts can last for years and still be accessible.

 

[loopytheone]

I think it's been a while since I replied to this thread and new people are here now, so I will ramble on again.

Dims has been home for me, mentally, since I was a teenager. I only started posting in my early 20s though and, uh, those of you that have been around since then have seen me grow up a lot. Being here and getting both supported and sternly told off by the others taught me a lot about social skills and communication, and about empathy and patience.

I always felt more at home on the BHM/FFA board because the people seemed more like me. There was more of a mix of men and women, more of my sense of humour and a sense of camaraderie. The BBW boards had a different, larger and more active crowd that I found overwhelming and scary, and my attempts to join in there never made me feel welcome the same way. I clashed pretty badly with a lot of BHM/FFA regulars too at first, but eventually ended up making new friends here and even voice chatting with some of you, which is something I basically never do! I feel a lot of warmth and affection to you all, even if I'm too shy to actually talk to a lot of you. The only real regret I have is not having had the chance to meet some of you in person!

I used spend more time in the Library than almost anywhere else here, though, and it is was drew me to the site originally and what let me weasel my way into the mod team! Being a mod here and working with so many fantastic people over the years has been incredible to me. It's something I never imagined I would be able to do, being a disabled, autistic, anxiety ridden mess that can barely take care of herself, hah.

Also, extra thanks for @Tad for putting up with me through my phase of arguing with everyone and constantly getting into trouble, hah!

 

[littlefairywren]

I think it's been a while since I replied to this thread and new people are here now, so I will ramble on again.

Dims has been home for me, mentally, since I was a teenager. I only started posting in my early 20s though and, uh, those of you that have been around since then have seen me grow up a lot. Being here and getting both supported and sternly told off by the others taught me a lot about social skills and communication, and about empathy and patience.

I always felt more at home on the BHM/FFA board because the people seemed more like me. There was more of a mix of men and women, more of my sense of humour and a sense of camaraderie. The BBW boards had a different, larger and more active crowd that I found overwhelming and scary, and my attempts to join in there never made me feel welcome the same way. I clashed pretty badly with a lot of BHM/FFA regulars too at first, but eventually ended up making new friends here and even voice chatting with some of you, which is something I basically never do! I feel a lot of warmth and affection to you all, even if I'm too shy to actually talk to a lot of you. The only real regret I have is not having had the chance to meet some of you in person!

I used spend more time in the Library than almost anywhere else here, though, and it is was drew me to the site originally and what let me weasel my way into the mod team! Being a mod here and working with so many fantastic people over the years has been incredible to me. It's something I never imagined I would be able to do, being a disabled, autistic, anxiety ridden mess that can barely take care of herself, hah.

Also, extra thanks for @Tad for putting up with me through my phase of arguing with everyone and constantly getting into trouble, hah!

I love that you became a mod, Loopy and think that you're perfect for the role. I remember the BBW board of old and it was scary. Unless you had lady balls, you got squished pretty fast. I never had lady balls, so I got crucified by a couple of the scarier ones. It's much softer now.

 

[AuntHen]

I love that you became a mod, Loopy and think that you're perfect for the role. I remember the BBW board of old and it was scary. Unless you had lady balls, you got squished pretty fast. I never had lady balls, so I got crucified by a couple of the scarier ones. It's much softer now.

I 2nd what LFW says about you as well loopy. And K... ladyballs haha, that reminds me of the times I tried to put a toe or two in Hyde Park

 

[littlefairywren]

Well hello, @AuntHen! I LIKE it, B! Oh wow, Hyde Park was like stepping in acid.

I haven't been called LFW in ages. Good memories xx

 

[loopytheone]

Awww, thank you both very much! =D And yeah, Hyde Park was a scary place!

 

[Tad]

I love seeing our Dims 'babies' growing up @loopytheone ! It is one of the cool things about how long the site has been running

 

[AmyJo1976]

I love seeing our Dims 'babies' growing up @loopytheone ! It is one of the cool things about how long the site has been running

I love how this site has helped a lot of us grow over the years, not just in age or size, but as FA/FFAs. It's made it possible to interact with people like ourselves and feel more comfortable with the way we are

 

[Colonial Warrior]

It helped me to grow as a writer!

 

[BigElectricKat]

It's well documented what Dimensions means to me (if you haven't read it, check the Strange Yet Wonderful thread). Oddly, the BHM/FFA board is not my usual hangout. Since I'm technically not very B nor at all H, I've only got the M part down pat. I tend to frequent some of the other forums where my talents are more readily useful. Also, some days I just lurk around hoping to be available if someone need me (for a smile, good word, or a technical question).

Interesting side note: When I first joined, I kept getting into trouble, not having the best communication skills (still not great to this day). @loopytheone chewed me out at least once! Now? I lean a great deal on her knowledge and expertise to solve problems that come up here. I would not be a Mod if not for her and DragonFly . So, there's something to be said for how we all grow and learn!